Sunday, 1 July 2007

boards you can trust

Boards and review-sites provide the sort of information that is essential to create a market where parties can take informed decisions, and where quality can develop through supply and demand.

Most boards will have an advert-section for touting (sometimes restricted to "sponsors" but sometimes also in good humour) and a (closed off) girl-section for uncontrollable gossip, timewaster-warnings and "safety" warnings. There is also generally a (sort-of-closed-off) boy-section for bragging, and various corners for Jokes, seeking advice and playground-stuff. And mostly you will find some general interest sections such as music[x-n], cooking and of course (this is Britain) a footy section.

Some boards have a review-section where clients tell of their experiences with local Ladies, and some agency-boards will encourage reviews, description and discussion of encounters with the girls.

When you spend time in the same location for a while, you tend to get introduced to the message-boards were Ladies and Punters (and agents, and lots of hangers-on) post their adverts and various burps. And on some travels, I have actively searched for a board in the area I went to make sure I made an educated choice when placing "the call".

Boards run by an agency are possibly biased, but are actually relatively innocent. I have had good fun on the boards of CT (known from that ch4 documentary) and Noto (a very busy board), who are both openly connected to an agency. An agy-board will generally not tolerate mentioning of other providers. But then most sponsored boards will not allow mentioning of non-sponsored providers either. Some boards discourage or forbid banner-signatures by non-paying bloggers like me.
As long as it is clear who owns and runs the board, you know more or less what to expect. CT and Noto both have interesting threads on "why-do-you-see-WLs?".

For newbies or non-locals the boards can provide a wealth of information and for local regulars they provide an important additional degree of transparency to an otherwise rather discrete and opaque industry. From reading the posts and from Personal Messages (PMs) you can try to get to know various Ladies or members that appeal to you. I got some Great Dates from careful reading and PM-ing interesting-sounding Ladies.

A nice measure of quality is the openness and tolerance of a board has towards mentioning "others" outside their circle of sponsors and friends. Another indication of quality can be "conflict handling". This is notable in the amount of bullies, the politeness of arguments and the type of moderation. A stable board will tolerate a certain amount of discussion. A good board will moderate nastiness and indiscretions but Will tolerate disagreement.
For example, I tend to "agree to disagree" with Joanne, my neighbor from Leeds, on a number of topics. for example on, say, incall/outcall. But we never trow mud at one another.

It does bring up an idea though: I'd love to go in a (friendly) mudfight with her - catsuit off.

The good boards are often entertaining and somewhat addictive reading. And if you start to participate, they can become quite a Time-Waste, as pointed out in this
recommended article by Compartments.

However, this post is also meant as a word of caution.

Fox Mulder applies: Trust No One.

Everything you type into a board is basically public. No matter what the board-policies or promises are, your text is readable by a large number of ppl. Email is not much different in that respect, but snooping email, MSN or Yahoo is one degree more difficult then snooping on boards and board-chats. Board operators have very easily access to all your writings, including the deleted or modified versions of you texts and to "Private Messages" you send to other members via the board.

In times of "news" or "crisis", such as the outing of a known local glamour-model, or when an agency takes a client to court, the (local) press tends to scrutinize the boards. There is also the risk that your office-colleague/competitor is a reader or even a moderator on the local board. So if you post this kinky adventure you had on the train to Glasgow, she might add up 1+1 ...

Some boards also operate a "chat" facility. These are not equal to MSN or Yahoo messengers. All your typings get recorded and kept by the board operators. In some cases, I have been naively caught by a board operator who did not agree with what I had said in a private chat to a girl, and I got (privately) grilled for it.
In a sense I was lucky that this operator was decent enough not to copy-paste my conversation with the girl into a public post on his board (that too has happened).

Most of these board operators will not want to state too loudly that they do keep and read everything that gets typed in their chat. They claim it contributes to "safety" as "the girls" will have a log of IP-addresses, and the operator is the guardian angel who oversees the chats they have with the evil punters. Proclaiming too loudly that everything gets recorded might "frighten them away" so the operator keeps mum about this feature. He prefers to Do Well in silence...

I often wondered what these all-seeing-all-reading board operators plan to do with their knowledge. In some cases, I found out. In a nasty-surprising way.

Another word of warning, which applies to every-day-life as well as to boards, but possibly more to boards in this shady industry:

Beware of Misinformation and bait.
Posters can make all sort of claims on boards, or tell scary-stories to imply that other parties are doing nasty things to them. They then hope that these other parties will be vilified or ousted by the community in general. Or, in the case of "bait", they want to see who will react and how.

Some of this brought back memories of my family's experience under totalitarian regimes. You could whisper (or shout) something nasty about your neighbour to a known authority. And with some luck, your neighbor would suffer harassment, or even totally disappear. If you did it silently, you could still seem sympathetic, take pity on him. And in most cases, his plot of land, his house or his daughters were yours for the taking and you had also gained important brownie-points with the powers-that-be.
Until, that is, someone pulled the same trick on you.

I know similar things happen in office politics and in some organizations the spread of vile rumour just constitutes good career-planning. [cartoon] But in the shady world of Escorting, it is particularly difficult to counter misinformation with the truth. Especially if "the truth" is filtered by a few monopolies
on information, who are possibly all under the same control.
It is indeed Eastern Europe revisited.

In this particular online "community" where most parties want to stay anonymous and discreet, there is no recourse, no law. And bringing in "the law" (aka the lawyers) will generally just make hay for the bad-ones.

However, do not let these words of warning prevent you from reading and posting on the boards. I suggest you start with the joke-sections. For the more pervy-inclined among us (avec mes hommages a la courtisane anglaise), you could study these opinions on GFE @ Noto or GFE @ NEE and kissing [x=north].

As stated earlier, the boards are a good source of information and Fun. Just be careful, and take everything with the usual grain of salt.
[image of salt]

Additional soundbytes:

Power corrupts, and absolute power corrupts absolutely. When a certain board becomes a de-facto monopoly on information, and especially when it gains the trust of a cricle of followers, it becomes the responsibility of the board-operators and moderators to NOT ABUSE that power and trust.
That is not easy.
Many forces in the industry will, for jealousy or financial gain, try to exert some
influence over such a board or will work to discredit it.

Some girls, agents and board-operators have been at this "information game" for years, and are extremely cunning in feeding (mis-)information, subtle outings and various forms of "pulling". It sometimes resembles email- and office-politics honed to perfection.

Why we see working girls,

guide to first-time punters (ok, but bit specific to the agency)


Anonymous said...

Excellent topic. Another very thought provoking read. The power corrupts part certainly rings true with some forum posters and owners. The behaviour of some reminds me of playground bullies.

Anonymous said...

its a problem with power isn't it,
it corrupts , possible.

but those with out it are jealous of those who have it.