Monday, 28 May 2007

Seduction

The previous post was about how a good escort-date is a Mind-game, an excercise in connecting with the other. And I stand by every word in there.

But then I came across This set of Q and A.

This possibly sums up my preferences even better then my punting-profile (not ready to publish that - LOL) or my posts on GFE.

I'm not after a quick sh*g, or an O-n-go meeting. I'm after complete Seduction.
And quality foreplay, be it in in the room, via texting, or on the Internet, is part of that.

I admit I had to refrain from making an immediate call to the Lady who posted that Q & A set.

Saturday, 19 May 2007

Escorting is a Mind Game.

And it is all about Focus on the Other and Giving to the other.

In previous posts, on boards, and in comments on other blogs, I have often stated I prefer a meeting of minds, a GFE, as much as a meeting with good bedroom mechanics.

And PeterB recently remarked in a comment that a 3some, whereby he meant two girls and one john, excites him possibly even more then a regular 1-on-1 date. I can see his point, but it is not my thingy yet. possibly never will.

Both items lead me to enforce my opinion that the connection of minds is just as important as the body-thing. Formulated by Joanne as: the Sex is the easy part [where did my link go].

I prefer a LoveBirdExperienceOne of my favorite paradigms is: Humans seem designed to live in pairs. And making love is a Fusion thing, a surrender to the other.
With more then one other person present, I would not feel the Total Connection between two persons. Each participant would always be focused on more then one other. There would always be an element of comparison, of non-exclusiveness, and possibly of jealousy.
And that, in my opinion, would reduce the quality of the "Contact".

In my own personal (and punting) life, the meetings I look for are those between two people. When I am with the Lady, during the limited time we have together, I want to give her Everything I can. Totally. And if she genuinely (or good-actingly) responds to that, then the meeting is an even Greater Success.

I found this "focus and give" attitude to be the best way to conduct a Date, and with truly good companions, it works like a charm.

During a good meeting, I am literally IN LOVE with my partner. No Kidding.
I am totally focused on the lady. I will try to give her everything. I WANT to please Her. The deliberate Focus on Her seems to increase the excitement, and I conscientiously try to remember every aspect of her, every curve, every reaction, every move.
I will re-live the meeting several times over in my mind, remembering Her. And I am more interested in Her reactions than anything else. To the point where I sometimes hardly notice what she does to me and have to be careful not to explode too early.

Hence I find it important that the Lady is confident enough to indicate what she likes and dislikes. And that she is relaxed enough to enjoy some of it herself.




Intermezzo on mechanics:
When you ask the visiting girl if she has any preferences, anything she enjoys, one of the most deadly answers a girls can give is: "...nothing in particular, I just want you to enjoy the meeting".
It generally means she is just there to make you cum in the most convenient way (for her). It also indicates that she would prefer not to kiss, and not to be touched too much by you. These women will try to make you come orally, while siting as far away as they can between your legs, with no eye-contact and with minimal body-to-body touching and maximum finger-only-contact (some are quite good at that, but the way, like the girl who pulled this fast-one (scroll to items 2 and 3 and have a laugh)).
Instead of just using (reverse-)O as foreplay, these girls want to make it the just-only-please-cum-now act. I have found this notably with ex-parlour girls and with overly-experienced women, who use these techniques at the end of the day when they have already "done" several others.
end of intermezzo.



All this leads to my preference for "intelligent" partners, GFE's if you like, who will take the time to "connect" (or pretend, I will not kid myself). Some "regulars" I've met are part-timers, who, for pretend or for real, do escorting partly for the kick. Natural Cuddle-and-Please Ladies, who provide a truly Good GFE.
These Ladies aim to connect, not just to please. The pleasing part comes naturally.

And as much like PeterB would not want a second john present at a meeting, I would not want to have a second Lady present. With the possible exception of a tantra-mistress-guide sometime. Maybe. One can dream.

Note: would I silently be "just practicing" in case I meet a true partner again ?
It would be a great boost to have, just once, a meeting where my partner appreciates me for what I am, not just for my envelope.

Question : How many johns consider seeing Working Ladies as part-entertainment and part Practice ?

Thursday, 17 May 2007

Escorts on Outcalls - Tips

In pedantic mode today.

I've had several interesting "situations" with visiting Ladies.

Although some Ladies and Agents have assured me many more incidents happen during Escort-dates, I have not yet had visiting Ladies throw up, fall ill or run out naked - yet. And I have yet to have "That Lady" go down and tease the hotel-bartender in her dress-up uniform (but we might try that one day, your Pictures with "that" uniform looked Delicious).

I did have had one occasion where a bare-breasted lady drew the niche curtain and waved to the driver across the street. I managed to pull her away in a loving embrace, and told her how naughty initiatives like that made her even more desireable. She took that very well, laughing out loud to wake up the neighbours. She was good, naughty and cheeky, but Very Good.

Some of the funny-incidents I had made me compile the text below. There are some pedentic tips (not quite hidden) in the list.

1. Please don't rush out to pay the driver.

I have no way of knowing you will come back, and hotel-reception will wonder ...
It has happened twice, once in UK and once in another country. The UK girl was rather nervous, grabbed the enve$ope and rushed out, mumbling something about driver not willing to wait. I was speechless. But she did come back. The date went ok, but a bit rusty. Girl has supposedly left the industry.

The other Lady managed to explain she had to pay the Taxi, and apologized long-ish (time was ticking?....). She agreed to leave with double the taxi-amount she quoted, and she too, came back. [picture: taxi meter]

I handed her the envelope with the remaining amount, which she never counted, and she delivered a brilliant service for the rest of the date. Her language-skills seemed to improve during the date, and We had a good laff afterwards. We overran substantially, indicating that the driver was either gone or in no hurry.
All is well that ends Well...


2. Bring essential items.

This was One Georgeous model-grade Beauty of a woman, Very good looking, with excellently shaped GG (enhanced) assets.
True blonde: she miscounted first time, had to re-count. Slowly..
She then managed to stay in chat-mode for a considerable time, managed to avoid any kissing, and insisted on giving a massage (not my thingy, but she was better then average at erotic massage. It took her 5 min to show me how her massage was better then average - Subtle and Very Exciting).

She also must have realized I was enjoying the view of her cleavage. She started rubbing herself and she seemed to get quite hot. She was Ready for it. Her hands, her eye-contact, her attitude and her breathing got me right to the edge. Then she stopped. And after 2 sec of ruffling through ther bag, she (routinely) concluded she had no condoms and had to go to ther car to get them (the practical one-piece-dress was back on before she had finished the senctence...).

Alarmbells.

I quickly produced some Durexes (hey, I come prepared!), and she reluctantly agreed to use mine (risk of allergies, rash, foreign quality rubber, size-objections ....)

I was still in luck, the date was not over yet. Which brings me to the next item


3. Practice and Perfect your Acting.

A horny companion is a Great Turnon for a man.And the same stunner who forgot the condoms was indeed a good actress.

Despite the intermezzo with the "forgotton rubber" she was still very good. Once convinced of my Durex, she put it on the tool, and she quickly monted on top. I sort-of noticed that she kept her feet flat on the bed, legs bent to stay in full control (ready to hop out).

But I was too excited.
And she kept up the show: Good movements, breathing noises (none of this pretended-dirty-talking, just very convincing breathing and some good, soft moans). And best of all: her experienced intimiate-muscle-action. It all made me come in less then 5 min. [image of booby-lady in extasy]

We were then 25 min into the date (now who is the clockwatcher?).

Her Expert acting, her lovingly executed touches, her offering-of-cleavage-view, all her movements, her complete Surrender to an impending Orgasm...

It all stopped the very moment I came.
Less then 1 min later she was out.
With an envelope that contained the full 1 hr fee (she had counted it, slowly, feigning a mistake, so she could count it twice...).

Her loud protestations, standing in the open doorway, half in the hotel corridor, were along the lines of "if you had wanted multiple orgasms you should have said so on the phone" and "I have a few more lined up to tonight you know".
Gone in less then 30 min.

The review never went online (no worries: it wasnt in the NE).

The sequel: mybook contains many more anecdotes, and some of those made it into outcall-tips-the-sequel...

Saturday, 5 May 2007

Escorts are Personalities

Escorting is not an easy job. The Ladies who work in the Escorting Industry, the ones who survive and who Enjoy it, are Quite Something. To succeed, the Lady has to have a solid Personality, a good acting capability and above all a sharp, Intelligent mind.

Most of the Ladies seem to be Very Nice persons (or very good actors? does it matter?) and some are very intelligent and quite balanced personalities. Possibly the kind of people I would recruit to work with in different circumstances. Many Ladies I've met could teach me a few things, and I dont mean just bedroom-mechanics. With some regulars, I know a little about their studies or their (non-Escort related) work/business-interests. A very few Regulars actually know my real name and birthday (=Risk!, but most agents do a hotel-check, so they have my name anyway).
Somtimes, I have encouraged Ladies to take exams or develop ideas that I thought would help them in future. I would not mind to stay in touch with them, even after they leave the Industry. Although I realize there is risk in that for both parties.

There is probably good material for a psychology-paper on Escort-personalities and I would be surprised if that has not been done yet. The topic is sure to attract a lot of publicity and good grant-money.

When I mentioned this, one Very Special Escort immediately jumped to the occastion: "Please send some Scholar or Dean to Interview me and let me do some serious Myth-Busting..."
Well, if you are still reading: you can do your own Myth-busting by starting a Blog I know you have the experience and personality to turn up interesting stuff. But you'll have to sacrifice the time and apply the discipline.

For the interested reader: Take a good look around on the existing Escort-blogs in my linklist on the right. All are recommended. And Google is your friend...

Joanne and Nia are "identifiable Ladies", their blogs contain links to their escort-sites. Hence, you could even go and see them.

Myriad is a special case. Go check. And give her a Friendly Nod.

Compartments has deliberately not connected her blog to her Escort-site, and that allows her to discuss specific encounters and to take a very Real and Raw angle on topics. Her blog is Especially insightful for "johns", as this Lady explains what really can go on in the head of your lovely, adorable Companion.

Give them a read, and follow their links, you will find some interesting stuff out there.

With Kudos to various ladies who set me on the trail of all those numerous Blogging Escorts...





stuff to investigate:
it is about the mind...

(dead link is now removed, Thanks Jo - I will investigate this subject furter, so expect some posts later on.)

Thursday, 3 May 2007

Phone Etiquette

As the first real contact is often by phone, I find it important to establish a good connect on the voice-call. As a customer, it is a positive sign if the person on the other side of the phone sounds like they know what they are doing.

No matter how witty the mails, PMs or Text-messages are, these can all be pre-cooked, or done with the aid of the marketing-consultant. The moment of truth, especially with Indies, is when you get the Lady on the phone.


If I have trouble understanding what she is saying...

If she has too-heavy an accent...

If like, she cannot compose complete, whole like, meaningfull phrases if u no wot i meen... like.

If she sounds disinterested...

If she just gets out of bed... like yawn, like, ...

If she wants the call to be as brief as possible...

... All of those ring Loud Alarm bells.

And I somtimes find myself Scrambling for an excuse (will confirm later, train coming ...)


So my main message to Ladies and Agents: Use a quality phone, and only answer if you can actually have a sensible conversation. In case of doubt: don't answer. You should have a reasonable voice-mail message to cover for "when you cannot answer the phone".

Call centres know how important it is to have clear, consise conversations. Even if they just want to tell you nothing, brush you off, they will try to do that with clearly understandable voices and with an option of "to evaluating the experience and have the chance to win even more junk".

But a lot of the Escorts and Agencies, even the good ones, do not seem to realize yet how important this first impression is.

Or is it just me being foreign and having my ears full ?

Tuesday, 1 May 2007

Liberal countries...

I'm currently in a country that is supposed to be Very Liberal on just about anything, and especially on anything of a a Sexual Nature...

Of all places, you would not expect This to happen from an Airport Wifi connection: