Saturday, 28 July 2007

Nature is your best guide to Pleasure

Chevalier had a topic on enhancements, and that prompted me to look for my notes on a related topic: Natural Enjoyment.


Note for Livvy: you might consider this to be one of my pervy or edible items that you seem to take pleasure in reading. So I suggest you make some tea, have some pastries or truffles ready, maybe get some cucumber sandwiches? And comfortably snug up for the read ;-).

If some paragraphs are of a rather explicit nature, I apologies up front. Tender eyes should be averted here or here.


When I meet a Lady for mutual pleasure, I want it to be exactly that:
Mutual and Pleasure.
Therefore, I will go to a certain length to make things comfortable, enjoyable for the Lady. I know it sounds arrogant and hypocritical, but I mean it: A Truly Good Meeting is Enjoyed by Both.


Note: Yes, I know. It is possible that the paid-for-GFE-provider is such a good actress that the paying customer doesn't notice the difference. In that case it is still a Good Meeting, with the client in blissful ignorance. But even then, I suspect the provider (the Artist!) will have the pleasure of seeing her ploy work to perfection. I presume that, as a good Artist, she will get her satisfaction from the fact that her Art is appreciated. I think Sue refers to this in her diary-entry of 26-Jul. In all my meetings with Suzie, I've never noticed any sign of "acting". That woman will always be a delightful and tantalizing misstery.

Back to Topic: Nature is your best guide.

To obtain maximum enjoyment, satisfaction if you like, I prefer a meeting to go naturally. We should follow Nature's lead.

I am not in favor of using excessive alcohol or other stimulants. I'm lucky enough not to need any pills, blue or otherwise, and I like to think I will never use them.
Some nibbles and drinks are called for to break the ice, to facilitate a chat, and to create a cosy-comfy atmosphere, but excesses should be avoided. For drinks, I consider one tasty glass of wine ideal, although I've seen a girl down a bottle in no-time once.

You never bothered with the fine cheeses or the delicious olives, but you spotted the two Large glasses immediately - Cheers lurve - Gulp, Oh my, that IS a very tasty red innit... The rest of the bottle was quickly shared, and a wild and Exciting date followed. You came onto me like a warm tsunami and I nearly suffocated under your sheer energy and our mutual delight. (I think you know who you are lurve - You are delicious. Take well care!).


So what would I consider Natural ? And do others out there have any opinion on this ?


Mainly, I look for guidance to biology. Humans were designed to relate, to fuse, to be together, in specific way. And I think we differ from animals in that humans need a mental connect as well as good physical chemistry.

Following nature's clues here I have decided I will not chase up the Total PSE, but rather I will look for a certain intense form of GFE. For the same reasons, I've decided to not practice CIM or A or WS or other things I consider Extreme or unnatural.

The mental connect is Very Important to me, and I can recommend anyone to go and explore this. I think it is a sine-qua-non for a Good Date.

Humans seem designed to come together and to communicate. The build-up of a "connect", a relation, is essential. This is where a good chat, kissing, cuddling and caressing come into play. I Greatly appreciate and enjoy those foreplay activities.

For the same reason, I avoid parlours and parlour-style short-dates. Parlour work was described by one girl who had tried it as "often close to paid rape".

Acting will sometimes replace the "mental connect". Really good acting can even imitate it, creating a true work of performing art [find link to good topic on Courtesane = Artist], and an eternal mystery for the customer.

I can have Exhausting days, sometimes jetlagged, often plain tired, stressed from another day of avoiding/defusing office-politics by scruffy-suited middle-zombies afraid to loose their perks, their powerbase and most of all their retirement-benefits.

On dates where my meticulous preparations get run-through in a hurry, and when my more-primitive-member does not stand to immediate attention, I am quite happy to just "be with" my chosen companion.

But I do my Research, check this How to Choose post on NEE. And in most cases my chosen partner is understanding and communicative. I find that if I focus on my partner, I will always fall into the mood of: She-is-adorable-and-I-want-to-please-her. (a matter of good research and careful selection - I am bragging here ...). The effect is generally a surprising revival of my primary urge.


This is why a Small number of known regulars are a great source of comfort in times of work-stress or after jetlag. The boost of a good Date is such a Blast
Mental note: re-vist post on "the Bliss of Regulars"



Gentle cuddling, eyecontact, and overall tenderness will cure just about anything. And everything flows automatically from there onwards. If both parties are Hot for Harder action, that will ensue quite naturally.

I do think Kissing should be practiced full-on, but with a new partner that should be approached carefully, gently. Explore how far both of you want to go, and don't insist on immediate tongue-action. Everything should develop gradually, and in total mutual consent.

Normally I am an Ardent and Passionate Kisser, but gentle avoidance on her part, or too much ciggy-smelly will gently redirect my focus to other part of my companion to find mutual pleasure. There are plenty of ways to cuddle and enjoy someone's company, and many ways can lead to mutual bliss.

Cunnilingus, should ideally be practiced by both but only at total discretion of both participants. It has, in my opinion, a function in the build-up and the bonding. Some companions do get genuinely excited from gently receiving, and so do I. But I will not consider doing it "to completion". I tried that just once, with a delicious, cuddly and very skillful Lady, but I found I got a better buzz from a regular, conventional climax. And I suspect most female companions who enjoy spit-or-swallow "in their personal lives" provide this "service" only with a certain reluctance.
And most of all, the digestive system is not the natural environment to dispose a healthy dose of the liquid-of-life.

I prefer to focus on the pleasure of my female partner and to have the satisfaction to see her relax and react, rather then force her to perform an unnatural act on herself or on me just for my own pervy pleasure.

My companion is more then welcome to tell me what she likes, or how she likes things. And I will gladly believe that relaxed Ladies can enjoy multiple climaxes. If I am allowed to help my partner achieve pleasure, that gives me a Great Buzz.

If she wants to bring a Rabbit she is more then welcome. As long as I'm allowed to come close, to cuddle up, to participate, to share in some gentle way.
To see a beautiful companion go to Heaven and gently come down again can be very rewarding.

Bondage stuff, or T+T, can undoubtedly be exciting, although would take a lot of confidence for me to be tied to a bed. I have not done that yet.
But Gentle Teasing can be another great part of the foreplay. Both give and take.
And I love to try and bring a relaxed partner to the edge and then keep her waiting, asking for relief, just a little longer, a little closer, another gentle little lick..

Likewise, I enjoy tantric-style postponement myself. However, I've been known to loose control many times. Some of my companions were Very Skilled and loved to show it by gently but irreversibly taking control of my excitement. That is probably the Natural way of things.
Our genes have the urge to multiply, after all. And each individual would search to gain some control over that process. Her power over me is complete when she has me at her mercy and she can make me loose control at her command.
I will try and postpone my own climax for as long as I possibly can. But I also know that I will give in at some point.

Ideally, the Final Fusion happens together, in a relaxed, natural position that both parties can enjoy. I have no specific preference for Mish, Cowgirl, Doggy, or more exotic and acrobatic positions although I like to see her face. Many positions can lead to hugely satisfactory climaxes.

The best Finales are enjoyed together, and with intimacy in the most natural way (Always Protected!). Sometimes, I'm just clinging on to her for deer life. I can have my face buried deep in her neck or in her bosom, hugging her as close as I can, craving a much physical contact as I can possibly get in this lonely existence. But on most occasions, I will try to Surrender to Absolute Bliss while looking at her beautiful face, straight into her eyes if she will let me, trying to establish the closes possible mental contact while the uncontrollable physical excitement overwhelms us.

As one Lady who calls a spade a space once stated:
gosh, you didn't just want to fuck my body, you wanted to fuck my brain as well.
Crude, but very well put.

In my quest for physical, mental and spiritual experiences, my leading theme will remain: follow Nature's call. Do the natural things. So far, it has worked very well for me, and I find it does lead to some very satisfying moments.

Opinions or suggestions anyone ?


Footnote for Livvy: was it pervy enough ? was it Edible ?

Friday, 27 July 2007

The Smell of Experience

Experience is important.

Sory; pulled for the moment. Possibly more Later.

Thursday, 26 July 2007

boobies

This post is in reply to Livvy who challenged me after a careless comment of mine Down Here at the ceremony. I was actually referring to my idea-in-progress for a post on how I like to Follow the Natural Flow of Things. And I have an a-priory DDislike for un-natural EEnhancements like fake FFrontal attributes.

Her ad-rem reply to my boobie remark was:
Ptr Leeds - show us your boobies at once and stop being so mysterious! That's Livvy's job

In the Headlight department, I am working hard to keep mine under control.

But on the more Artsy Department, how about these apples for substitute ?

It is a change from the Chocolate and the cucumber sandwiches.

Have a Healthy Bite Livvy.

Tuesday, 24 July 2007

parlours and clubs - will it ever improve ?

Note: Post under construction; published for disucssion with regulars

So far, I have avoided visiting "parlours".

I have actually done only 1 proper incall during my whole punting career and that was out of curiosity. I wanted to know what it was like, and I wanted to meet the particular lady that I had spotted from her profile and reviews. The date was OK, but I have not revisited incalls since. It is well documented why I prefer outalls

One girl who had briefly tried parlour work told me it was "often close to paid rape". She did leave the industry shortly after that remark. That, plus the exterior aspects of many parlours and their general reputation has put me off for good.

I mean no disrespect to the girls and the customers in that business. I know some parlours and clubs are reasonably well-managed. And many girls and punters are thriving in that environment. Some successful girls even make a good living doing 30-min jobs, but that whole environment is not my cup of tea.

But to credit the parlour-business, I will admit that one of my "regulars" in a previous city had started off as a parlour Lady. And she much was more positive about those establishments. This Lady must have been quite skillful at the job. I Fondly remember her talents and I am sure her elegant-curvy looks and her Formidable, flirty GFE Attitude, with never a hint of forced-acting, must have helped.
She apparently collected a huge following of regular visitors whom she could rely on. I suspect she actually enjoyed the power she yielded over those lonely sods, victims, punters, customers, wallets men. And as success grows success, the Money came in HHandsomely and she had found the perfect part-time occupation.

But let us note that she did rapidly move on to agency-Lady and now is operating as a Respectable Indie.

In Germany and the Netherlands, I have occasionally visited "Clubs". There are various types, and a lot of the smaller ones are just as seedy (but more expensive) then UK parlours. But some are relatively lare establishments, often converted mid-size hotels.

The number of girls present in such a place can be up to 100 (one hundred), and there are large areas for socializing. Customers can get acquainted with one or more Ladies, and can then choose to retreat to a private room.
Here is one very nice example. And this is probably the best known establishment on this side of the Rhine.

Food and drink are provided, often free of charge but still of reasonable quality, -covered by an entrance-fee of, typically, 50 euros for a whole day. The customer can stay as long as he pleases and closing will be around midnight.

The Ladies working there vary. There is often a mix of part-time students and moms and full-time professionals of various nationalities and backgrounds.


There are the odd Lesbian couples who only want to book duos and have all their fun together. The uber-professional (I have teased you to rapid climax, my, you were horny wernt you? You have had your moment, now let me have my ciggy - Ooops, time is up). And the foreign Lady whose language skills will decrease during the date, ready to hide behind a misunderstanding to bail out with minimal effort. She is in it for the Money, and could not care less. She needs to go chase the next victim to meet her target.

Tip: aim for the 30-something local part-timing mum. She is often into it for Fun, and will be more receptive to kind and considerate attention.


On the whole, those clubs offer a clean and safe environment for both customers and Ladies.

My Opinion: Legalizing businesses like this in the UK would increase the saftey and might "curb" some of the street-walking and stop the more seedy parlours from abusing Ladies and punters.

Wednesday, 4 July 2007

Seven Things and a radio interview

Right. More "work".

Just when I'm rather busy, and one of my Favorite Regulars [link-to-post-on-regulars] goes on BBC Breakfast radio, I also get prompted to name seven random facts about myself, and to find 7 new victims tag-targets.

More on the breakfast radio later, but the audio is here (.ram), and disucssions are here on NE Escort and here on X-N (if the moderators will let these topics live....)


Alors, ces "Sept Choses" ...

This chain-tag came in via Nia-black-and-blogging, who got it from Gilette, who got it from .....

And now I got "tagged". Nia requested me to prompt 7 random facts about myself followed by 7 new tag-targets. And I have to be quick otherwise the whole Escorting Blogosphere will be tagged before I can designate 7 fresh victims (do the math: 7 x 7 x 7 x 7 ....)

I'll start on-topic, this blog is about my "hobby" after all. And the tag-source is very much escort-related. So I did some quick soul searching in my favorite passtime.

Un.
My quest is for the ultimate GFE. I just love good Girl Friend Experiences. See here for more details on GFE...

Deux.
Outcalls do it for me. In this, I politely differ from Joanne, who perfers incalls. Never the two shall meet, and I love to think of Joanne as an eternal Enigma.

Trois.
Meticulous preparation. Something I have in common with Avatar.

Quatre.
I value discretion, and I have learned something about compartimentalization from Compartments.

Cinq.
And I am gradually moving towards a small group of Regulars. The comfort of knowing one-another really intensifies the meetings.

Sex.
The amount of "tricks" I've learned from professional companions has really improved my sexlife. I'm pondering how to post on this without descending into too much intimate details.

Sept.
Les sept Suivants ....
It took me some (late night) thinking and surfing to find them, and I hope they have not been tagged by someone else in the meantime..


La Liste ....

Avatar - I try to avoid explicit stuff, but this Girl made it into an artform.

Compartments - a revealing read.

Edwin - Here is one fun loving John

Sue in Manchester - A Swinger, Escort and Entrepreneur with a mission.

The English Courtesan - Great Read. Way out of my league (I'm only a foreigner working in the UK after all) but if my career ever succeeds I'd love to meet her.

Beau - A different kind of blog.

The last entry has to wait a bit. She is a fairly recent blogger, and I have to ask this very discreet Lady if I am allowed to "out her blog". She may just choose to remain a mystery for now.

NB: I will try to inform all of them, but now have to go zzzs.

NB2: This is a bit of a rough post, but I wanted to get both Sue's interview and the list out ASAP. Its been a long day. Will hopefully Edit and beautify this on Friday-night.

Sunday, 1 July 2007

boards you can trust


Boards and review-sites provide the sort of information that is essential to create a market where parties can take informed decisions, and where quality can develop through supply and demand.

Most boards will have an advert-section for touting (sometimes restricted to "sponsors" but sometimes also in good humour) and a (closed off) girl-section for uncontrollable gossip, timewaster-warnings and "safety" warnings. There is also generally a (sort-of-closed-off) boy-section for bragging, and various corners for Jokes, seeking advice and playground-stuff. And mostly you will find some general interest sections such as music[x-n], cooking and of course (this is Britain) a footy section.

Some boards have a review-section where clients tell of their experiences with local Ladies, and some agency-boards will encourage reviews, description and discussion of encounters with the girls.

When you spend time in the same location for a while, you tend to get introduced to the message-boards were Ladies and Punters (and agents, and lots of hangers-on) post their adverts and various burps. And on some travels, I have actively searched for a board in the area I went to make sure I made an educated choice when placing "the call".

Boards run by an agency are possibly biased, but are actually relatively innocent. I have had good fun on the boards of CT (known from that ch4 documentary) and Noto (a very busy board), who are both openly connected to an agency. An agy-board will generally not tolerate mentioning of other providers. But then most sponsored boards will not allow mentioning of non-sponsored providers either. Some boards discourage or forbid banner-signatures by non-paying bloggers like me.
As long as it is clear who owns and runs the board, you know more or less what to expect. CT and Noto both have interesting threads on "why-do-you-see-WLs?".

For newbies or non-locals the boards can provide a wealth of information and for local regulars they provide an important additional degree of transparency to an otherwise rather discrete and opaque industry. From reading the posts and from Personal Messages (PMs) you can try to get to know various Ladies or members that appeal to you. I got some Great Dates from careful reading and PM-ing interesting-sounding Ladies.

A nice measure of quality is the openness and tolerance of a board has towards mentioning "others" outside their circle of sponsors and friends. Another indication of quality can be "conflict handling". This is notable in the amount of bullies, the politeness of arguments and the type of moderation. A stable board will tolerate a certain amount of discussion. A good board will moderate nastiness and indiscretions but Will tolerate disagreement.
For example, I tend to "agree to disagree" with Joanne, my neighbor from Leeds, on a number of topics. for example on, say, incall/outcall. But we never trow mud at one another.

It does bring up an idea though: I'd love to go in a (friendly) mudfight with her - catsuit off.

The good boards are often entertaining and somewhat addictive reading. And if you start to participate, they can become quite a Time-Waste, as pointed out in this
recommended article by Compartments.


However, this post is also meant as a word of caution.





Fox Mulder applies: Trust No One.


Everything you type into a board is basically public. No matter what the board-policies or promises are, your text is readable by a large number of ppl. Email is not much different in that respect, but snooping email, MSN or Yahoo is one degree more difficult then snooping on boards and board-chats. Board operators have very easily access to all your writings, including the deleted or modified versions of you texts and to "Private Messages" you send to other members via the board.

In times of "news" or "crisis", such as the outing of a known local glamour-model, or when an agency takes a client to court, the (local) press tends to scrutinize the boards. There is also the risk that your office-colleague/competitor is a reader or even a moderator on the local board. So if you post this kinky adventure you had on the train to Glasgow, she might add up 1+1 ...

Some boards also operate a "chat" facility. These are not equal to MSN or Yahoo messengers. All your typings get recorded and kept by the board operators. In some cases, I have been naively caught by a board operator who did not agree with what I had said in a private chat to a girl, and I got (privately) grilled for it.
In a sense I was lucky that this operator was decent enough not to copy-paste my conversation with the girl into a public post on his board (that too has happened).

Most of these board operators will not want to state too loudly that they do keep and read everything that gets typed in their chat. They claim it contributes to "safety" as "the girls" will have a log of IP-addresses, and the operator is the guardian angel who oversees the chats they have with the evil punters. Proclaiming too loudly that everything gets recorded might "frighten them away" so the operator keeps mum about this feature. He prefers to Do Well in silence...

I often wondered what these all-seeing-all-reading board operators plan to do with their knowledge. In some cases, I found out. In a nasty-surprising way.


Another word of warning, which applies to every-day-life as well as to boards, but possibly more to boards in this shady industry:

Beware of Misinformation and bait.
Posters can make all sort of claims on boards, or tell scary-stories to imply that other parties are doing nasty things to them. They then hope that these other parties will be vilified or ousted by the community in general. Or, in the case of "bait", they want to see who will react and how.

Some of this brought back memories of my family's experience under totalitarian regimes. You could whisper (or shout) something nasty about your neighbour to a known authority. And with some luck, your neighbor would suffer harassment, or even totally disappear. If you did it silently, you could still seem sympathetic, take pity on him. And in most cases, his plot of land, his house or his daughters were yours for the taking and you had also gained important brownie-points with the powers-that-be.
Until, that is, someone pulled the same trick on you.

I know similar things happen in office politics and in some organizations the spread of vile rumour just constitutes good career-planning. [cartoon] But in the shady world of Escorting, it is particularly difficult to counter misinformation with the truth. Especially if "the truth" is filtered by a few monopolies
on information, who are possibly all under the same control.
It is indeed Eastern Europe revisited.

In this particular online "community" where most parties want to stay anonymous and discreet, there is no recourse, no law. And bringing in "the law" (aka the lawyers) will generally just make hay for the bad-ones.



However, do not let these words of warning prevent you from reading and posting on the boards. I suggest you start with the joke-sections. For the more pervy-inclined among us (avec mes hommages a la courtisane anglaise), you could study these opinions on GFE @ Noto or GFE @ NEE and kissing [x=north].

As stated earlier, the boards are a good source of information and Fun. Just be careful, and take everything with the usual grain of salt.
[image of salt]



Additional soundbytes:

Power corrupts, and absolute power corrupts absolutely. When a certain board becomes a de-facto monopoly on information, and especially when it gains the trust of a cricle of followers, it becomes the responsibility of the board-operators and moderators to NOT ABUSE that power and trust.
That is not easy.
Many forces in the industry will, for jealousy or financial gain, try to exert some
influence over such a board or will work to discredit it.



Experience:
Some girls, agents and board-operators have been at this "information game" for years, and are extremely cunning in feeding (mis-)information, subtle outings and various forms of "pulling". It sometimes resembles email- and office-politics honed to perfection.



Why we see working girls,
http://northeastescorts.co.uk/Forum/index.php?topic=165.0

guide to first-time punters (ok, but bit specific to the agency)
http://northeastescorts.co.uk/Forum/index.php?topic=2265.0