Ptr Leeds in Wonder Land

Under the Radar.

2011-11-23T13:04:00.001-08:00

The expression "Under the Radar", when used for a Working Lady generally means that she is on the game, but not actively advertising. The under-the-radar girl probably is doing the job part time, or is living off (a set of) profitable regular(s). It can also be a prelude to retirement from the industry.

Under the Radar also describes my current participation in the industry. I visit several places at irregular intervals, and meet mostly "regulars".

It is a very comfortable life.
I can never enough recommend "the regular" (see earlier posts).

I also find my urge to post blogposts on here has cooled off somewhat, partly due to a long absence from my regular punting grounds, partly because I have said more or less all I wanted to say (I dont like repeating same songs over and over, done that enough already).

But just to let some of the regular readers know: I'm Just Fine. Thank You!
(and I have no intention to retire yet - hehehe).

Nessuno mi può giudicare - Escort in Love

2011-09-07T05:47:00.000-07:00

Found this gem of an Italian Movie this week.

After the Germans made fun of the profession in the movie Stellungswechsel, it is now up to the Italians.

This Italian comedy with serious undertones depicts the life of a mother-cum-escort. It also has several funny sub-plots about homosexuality, about racism and about puppy-love.

As always, you wonder if the Belle/Billie series[link], or any of the chick-lit escort books were the inspiration for the movie, but it is the result that counts.
And this movie Counts.

It is first and foremost Funny - It is Comedy!
And It has its tragic moments. It is also visually pleasing.
In short, a nice work of Art.

And Doubly enjoyable to watch if you are slightly familiar with the world of Escorts and Punters.

It shows several of the dillemas that an escorting Lady (mother at that) might face.
- meeting the highly succesful role model with a huge spending power.
- the decision to go on the game (financial need!)
- cynical lessons and coaching by an experienced Escort.
- the fotoshoot.
- the first appointment.
- juggling the confidential activities with real life.
- the unexpected confrontation with a customer (in a sporting good store).
- funny customers (several are hilarious, but all seem ideal punters).
- performing striptease at a bachelors party

Do I have some critical remarks though:

For one thing, there seem to be no real awkward or dodgy customers ever.
And the movie features only two highly succesful Escorts, the coach and the main character.
The Coaching Lady is a full-time Escort who found her vocation,
who owns a very posh appartment, has ideal clients and no apparent problems ever.
Other escorts appear as "extras" in some scenes (nice yacht party) but they all seem clones of the two main characters. None of the escorts are EE or other foreign nationalities.

Then there is the close group of friends and neighbours who seem to not suspect anything, ever, despite some weird and awkward (somtimes Hilarious) moments. Even when the Potential boyfriend/partner finds out, turns her down, and refuses further contact, he doesnt seem to blow the whistle to the entourage.

And at the end of the movie, when the mother has resolved her financial problems (a large amount of money gathered in an unbelievably short time) she exits the profession with an almost casual Ease. On exiting the profession, there is a dialogue between the two escorts, where the mum confesses to sentiments that were not apparent during the movie.
And after her short and profitable stint as an escort, she isnt hooked on the revenue and doesnt seem scarred or jaded in any way.
Almost Too good to be true.

Nessuno mi può giudicare is, in the end, a feelgood movie, so I can accept the deficiencies, but still.

More Background still in this interview with the yummi Paolo Cortellesi here.

All in all this is a very much recommended movie (10/10 on IMDB, from me). But I would prefer to watch it with an Escort rather then with the wife, lest you show recognition or laugh at specific items.

Happy viewing.
And dont let anybody judge you.

Off to the Land of Nod

2011-08-28T02:40:00.000-07:00

Here is a hotel that I will avoid, especially after the subtle comments from Lucy Kellaway.

Complete article here (may need to register)

The remark on the fake-bookshelves is the most deadly. After such an observation, I would think I was unable to sleep at all in such an establishment. Anyway, Lucy managed to finally fall asleep with a was a fraction of a mirtazapine pill (subtle endorsement!).

My favorite way to doze off is of course : after a slow and intense session in the arms of a regular.

So for anyone suffering from insomnia: get on Punternet and find yourself a regular.

Best sleeping advice I can give.
And it is proven to work.

Addictive for the Girl.

2011-08-27T02:01:00.000-07:00

Marie has a nice description here of how the Empowerment of the job can be addictive.

But she also points out the problem of getting into normal dating while in the job.

With the mentioning of Leeds, and how she describes the start of her career, I am kinda happy I have mainly kept myself to outcalls.

Good Luck Marie.

Nice to be Back.

2011-08-06T08:47:00.000-07:00

Expect a few new topics soon.

The long break was due to being in the wrong country most of the time.
And on the occastional return to britain: Regulars.

Hedge perversion

2010-10-12T12:57:00.000-07:00

Even though it happened near cambridge, I'm sure Livvy just loves
this topiary

Match That!

Back for Olives

2010-04-20T14:45:00.000-07:00

I overheard two sets of lyrics today, and they so fit my mood:

I've been to Georgia and California,
and Anywhere I could run...

I have actually been to those places, and to a lot of other locations.
And sure, it was good fun. I love that life.

But something was missing.

Or rather "Someone" was missing.

And now I'm finally looking forward to some Olives with someone very very dear.

And here is the song that played over lunch today,
and old favorite of mine:

She says her love for me could never die
but that'd change if she ever found out about you and I
oh but her love is cold it wouldn't hurt her if she didn't know
'cause when it gets too much I need to feel your touch

I'm gonna run to you I'm gonna run to you
'cause when the feeling's right I'm gonna run all night
I'm gonna run to you

She's got a heart of gold she'd never let me down
but you're the one that always turns me on and keeps me coming round
I know her love is true but it's so damn easy making love to you
I got my mind made up I need to feel your touch

I'm gonna run to you yea I'm gonna run to you
'cause when the feeling's right I'm gonna stay all night
I'm gonna run to you

Yea I'm gonna run to oh when the feeling's right
I'm gonna run all night I'm gonna run to you
oh I'm gonna run to you yea I'm gonna run to you
'cause when the feeling's right I'm gonna stay all night
I'm gonna run to you

Oh I'm gonna run to you yea when the feeling's right
I'm gonna stay all night oh when the feeling's right now
oh yea when the feeling's right now I'm gonna run to you oh oh

Yea I'm gonna run to you - yea now
oh I'm gonna run to you - run to you babe
I'm gonna run to you - oh I'm gonna run
I'm running - right over right now

Ships in the night... ?

next best remedy for jetlag

2010-03-13T12:19:00.000-08:00

From my previous post, it is clear what I think is The Best Remedy for jetlag (and she knows who she is).

But while finally catching up with my naughtier part, I came across this good bit by Belle, and I must admit: for makeing me laugh, it was the next best thing to my favorite remedy.

Recommended Rant!

I should really include one of those charming pictures of Dr Belle, but too lazy (and slightly jetlagged)...

btw: avatar is not at all my movie, nor is the hurt locker, but I have now seen "Up in the Air" 3 times with two different companions.

Remedy for jetlag

2010-02-13T04:49:00.000-08:00

The obligatory apology for not posting...

In the last few weeks, I was too busy with work and I had too much (work-related) fun to keep up the writing.

Live is great fun, but also rather hard work.

Work-life has picked up in a way I had not imagined, and I have been seriously jetlagged a few times. Now, I have a patent remedy for Jet Lag, but it requires the proximity of a regular, and that is not always the case.

More Later.

I said: LATER!

Happy ?

Ladies, Cougars, and their Prey

2010-01-21T14:29:00.000-08:00

Gillette had a nice item on Cougarification recently.

I had heard the term cougar, but never really investigated its meaning. When I did, I found some Gems of clips and text on youtube.

First, there was this tongue-in-cheek clip that contains An unflinching examination of the behaviour of Cougars in urban Auckland's wild side with the mysteries of their mating habits finally revealed.

But on a much more serious note I foud a how-to guide that describe this new breed of single, older woman - confident, sophisticated, desirable and sexy.
including How to find and identify the different types of prey and much more.

Have a look here:

Follow the clip onto youtube for much more related video and texts.

Happy Hunting!

ps: Economy is picking up like a wildfire. I'm Getting Over-booked and Exhausted. And despite all the tongue-in-cheek, I am in real need of a good hug and some tender contact. But I am in the wrong place as we write... Miss you Babe, Really miss you!

Prostitution Research and Bindel Propaganda

2010-01-17T12:20:00.000-08:00

There was another Julie Bindel piece in the Guardian recently. I noticed it from the reply by Amanda. (the logo links to a much better Guardian article, hehehe)

It would be interesting to hear the other side of this research: What would other scientists like Teela Sanders (link) make of this research? And there may be a reaction from the English Collective of Prostitutes out there.

But then, maybe any attention to this, in my opinion, very biased piece of work may be too much honour.

Amanda already did a level headed reply. I'll do my little bit,
by picking out those parts of the report that in my opinion make the case in favour of legalization of prostitution instead of criminalizing clients. And I am thinking notably of the safety of both provider and client, and about the general public interest in a fair, respectful and functioning society.

I am in favour of Respect for the bankers, trade-unionists and bearded robes (if they all stick to the law and not cause offence). But I am also in favour of respect for Working Ladies and their customers (we too, we can stick to the law and not cause offence).

I'll start out by using the following tidbit from the report:

Kinnell (2008 p42-43) recently described the range and intensity of violence perpetrated against women in UK prostitution, including sexual assaults, physical assaults, robbery and verbal abuse. Also documented was the use against prostituted women of covert photography of the women during sex acts with buyers, blackmail, threatening letters and phone calls, people posing as police, verbal abuse, threats including with weapons, intimidation, stalking, mugging, thrown missiles (fireworks, stones, bottles, urine, dirty nappies, eggs), harassment by youth gangs and vigilantes, ejection from moving cars or assault by cars and kidnapping. Buyers also reportedly refused to use or tampered with condoms and forced acts that were not paid for.

In my opinion, most of this abuse would not occur if the business of pay4play was totally legal and above board. And in those cases where abuse would still occur (I'm sure there are a few bad males out there) the victim would have a lot more recourse if they had been engaged in an acceptable activity instead of in something (semi-)illegal.

A funny tidbit was that 44% of the men had started before age 21. Personally, I find that a bit depressing. I'd use my funds differently at that age. But I acknowledge the huge urge one can have in that period of life. And I clearly recall my ad-hoc popularity with girls in highschool and university when they needed help with homework or physics/math/chemistry/computing labs, or mechanical problems. I had access to a well-equipped garage while at uni, and boy was that a populariry-enhancement (we, the engineering students, were well aware of that, btw). I also found out that once the bicycle, moped or car was back on the road, the seductive attitude was suddenly over - and I fell for that time and again.

Back to the report.

Why is the report obsessed with the rape-myth-acceptance ?
So part of the interview-group accepts rape-myths, believe the yes-means-no thing and/or think a prostitute is none-rapeable (whatever that can be). So... How are those percentages in the normal male population ? And the men expressed a number of mysogynists attitudes. Sure, and how much of the "normal" male population would express the same attitude ?

There is extesive description of the supposed damage done to the prostitute because of her job. Forty-four per cent of the men believed that prostitution had a very or extremely negative effect on the prostitute. The report then uses words like losing morals and complex posttraumatic disorder, without any indication of how many (ex) prostitutes actually suffer this.
There is no mention of what could be done to help them (legalize/tolerate it, maybe?)
And again, no mention of how much the "normal" population of women (or men) suffer from these disorders, or how other events can inflict low self esteem.
I wont go into detail as to what a recent round of brutal layoffs did to some of my most valued secretarial- and other female colleagues.

I'm probably deluded when I state that most of the Escorts I regularly meet are a lot stronger and stable personalities then the average female I come across. But I probably select my regular Ladies on strength of personality rather then on potential disorders.

Where one male has answered: They dont mind having sex with Anyone,
I would make an objection. Properly managed Escorting would allow the Lady to refuse a client (hence, again, the case for legalization).

And when the report cites a customer I dont see myself going out with someone who has been paid for sex, does he need reminding of the office-kittens who gladly parade and sleep around to improve their chances? Those females who "give it away" for other benefits then money, would they not also be damaged in some way ? And would anyone know or see the difference ?

There is extensive text in the report to assert the notion that a majority of women in the business are trafficked. I would have hope that this has been exposed sufficiently as a myth by now.

Where are those trafficked women ?
If there are so many trafficked women, why dont we see regular press-clippings of "liberated" or "saved" women? And Why do we not see regular prosecution of pimps/traffickers ? Later on the report mentions that traffickers have good lawyers and use sattelite-phones...

And allthough my experience is not representative, I have not seen any indication of trafficked or pimped women among my own providers. Note that I will choose [link] British Ladies whenever I can, better connections, better service, less risk of trafficking - grinning.

I've seen the odd unstable/insecure one, a few who clearly were in the wrong business (mostly students under 25yo), and the odd potential coke-user. But I have never seen clear indications of pimping, trafficking or abuse. Again, this may be due to my fairly careful selection mechanism.

If there are pimped or trafficked girls (as there are may be some), the way to help them is, in my opinion, not to outlaw or criminalize the business [link to earlier blog]. Before recent changes in law, I could be fairly safe in reporting abuse or other problems to crimestoppers. With the recent criminalisation, and a few funny incidents recently (link to example in Reading) I will think very hard before involving the law in anything because I would expose myself to an eager, target-score-happy prosecution who needs to make an example-case (lookie-here - We nabbed a pervert-user and blogger)

The conclusions of the report are, frankly, appaling to me. Note that the report never claims any scientific value either, although the writeup makes it loook scientific to tries to add to the credibility. But the conclusions expose it as a shameless policy-pushing piece of semi-objective research.

For example, nr 6 where the recommendations seems to be to enforce UK legislation "extra territorially". Imagine Singapore enforcing the anti-chewing gum laws over in the US, or Arab countries enforcing sharia-rules onto their (female) citizens visiting the UK (not un-imaginable, btw).

This paper was written solely for the purpose of propaganda, attention-seeking and ultimately for the money-raising for its authors.
Now who are we trying to help ?

OK, that is enough attention for a piece of bad propaganda.

I suggest that those of us who are UK residents use their power of voting and opinion to condemn the politicians who sponsored this research and the new criminalization laws. And those of you not linked to the UK, you can easily vote with your feet and your wallets.

Actually, it is not all that difficult to take a UK GF(E) abroad for an Excellent Experience.

Y'all stay safe and Have fun now.

slow deep intense

2009-12-07T07:59:00.000-08:00

Been too bloody busy working and travelling to write, or to even think much. Will comment more on some (news) items later. Gimme time (In the meantime, a lot will already be said and written, so I might not bother anymore.)

I owe a lot to my "regular" (she knows who she is), and I am trying to visit her more often (work, time, flights...).

For the moment, I'll just leave you with this Classic from Gillette, the things that always worked best for me (I'd love to meet this woman sometime - Gillette, if you are reading...):

Slow (if I can refrain from jumping right on, it's been a while...)
Deep (in the mental way: Connect!)
Intense (someone I can relate to)

I will come back soon and spend more time, until then: Take Care.

Advice on Men and Sex

2009-11-26T13:00:00.000-08:00

At the risk of looking like a groupy or a tout, I'll give out a quick link to some good advice...

Nr 5 is the best tip ever!

Dr Belle de Jour

2009-11-18T13:50:00.000-08:00

She is for Real.

I will admid that I had doubts. The blog and books were written and marketed so well that it could have been a professional writer or a prank. Hence, I never took her in my blogroll.

But it seems Dr Belle (Yes, a PhD!) was for real after all.

On the negative side, it seems she outed herself because some newspaper had gotten a tip and was about to break the news anyway. For that, I feel sorry for her. It seems she had preferred anonymity but the papers didnt respect that. Given her extensive writings, and the ruthlessness of the UK press, I'm not surprised.

But her outing brought about some very good (and also the usual negative) comments by some. The original outing-interview is a good read.

And this comment in Newsweek is something I want to recomment to politicians and normal persons alike.

I will not close my eyes to some of the bad things that go on in the paid-for-dateing scene. But Dr Belle (I like that name) is an example of how one woman found "empowerment", rather then degradation. And I know many girls, some of them students and most of them very clever, found "the game" equally liberating as Dr Belle.

If ever "The Right Lady" existed, Dr Belle seems to be Her. Brains, Beauty and Talent.

NB: If you are reading, welcome to my blogroll. And I apologize for my original doubts. Much Respect!

une amante authentique

2009-11-04T14:26:00.000-08:00

As a homage to someone very Dear, quite far away.

I never know how to thank you properly, but on the flight out, I came across a few lines from a book that immediately made me think of you.

Inspector Janvier reports to Commisaire Maigret :

Seulement ?
Voila : il y a en elle quelque chose de très féminin, d’émouvant. On la sent très douce, un peu effrayée par la vie, et c’est le genre de femme que un homme a envie de protéger. Vous comprenez ce que je veut dire? Son corps aussi est très féminin, tres …

Then, a few hours later, Inspector Lapointe reports on the same lady.

J’essaie de vous expliquer l’effet qu’elle doit produire sur la plupart des gens. On rencontre parfois, comme ca, un femme qui fait tout de suite penser a …
A quoi ?
On la voit malgré soi se blottir dans les bras de son compagnon, on sent presque sa chaleur. En même temps on sait que elle n’est pour un seul, que c’est une véritable amoureuse, une amante authentique…

Taken from « Les Scrupules de Maigret », by Georges Simenon, 1957.
(I'll finish the book on the return journey)

We should meet again soon!

Prostitution, History, Economy

2009-10-13T00:34:00.000-07:00

If "the game" is considered a lage economic (government taxable) activity, then we are only progressing a tradition.

According to this book, The Secret History of Georgian London: How the Wages of Sin Shaped the Capital, prostitution helped shape georgian Londen to quite an important extent.

So was the industry of pleasure following the economic activity, or was it shapeing it ? Maybe the success of an economy is not just due to the work-force, but also due to the "Working Ladies". And tolerating them.

With Thanks to DollyMopp for pointing out the book.

Oh, and before the anti-brigaqde pop in, yes, I do realize it wasnt all fun and glamour then, nor is it all rosey now. But things have changed a lot.

Trains and Trainstations and People

2009-10-09T06:18:00.000-07:00

It is well known: I do some of my more creative work-writing and most of my fun-writing (this) on long distance trains.

I enjoy that blissfull detachment, the not-quite-real state, that comes with nomadic work.

Various trainrides are already documented on blogs or boardpostings. And I notably remember the pull (or honeytrap?) of a lady who was alledgedly on her way to a blind-date.

There is the story of the four impeccably dressed (public-) schoolteachers with perfect but artificial sounding RP. They sat "discreetly" discussing school matters across the isle in the quiet coach. And they strongly dissaproved of my mobile that kept going off (some of you know that my ringtones can be a bit adventurous).

There was also the girl who dumped her boyfriend with one phonecall between Kx and Leeds. She took the whole train journey to do it. And the complete coach could listen in. Good riddance, and I hope the bloke learned a lesson. That girl, by the way, is not likely to make a good escort Lady: Too indecisive and too chatty. She would make a good timewaster though.

But now I am sitting in a waiting-lounge, awaiting a delayed connecting train. I wonder how many fellow travellers are also picking up the nexecwifi and surfing the net.

Next to me is a completely bland, very boring couple in their 30s. They seem like one of those newly formed pairs, still ill at ease with one-another. They may have met via the internet and now had their first skinny-frappuchino together. I can just imagine him mailing: "I will be wearing a long dark-blue coat, green corduroy trousers with brown shoes and have "The Times" under my left arm." Next time, she can also recognize him from the non-matching blue-ish socks. Probably not just Socks, but M&S socks.

"Him" is a not-yet-restyled "Man from platform 5" and "Her" looks like a Guardian reader who is into knitting, pottery and watercolour paintings. They both really need an appointment with Trinny and Susannah.
The couple are gravely occupied on two separate discussions about their mental health and family related issues. They are both speaking at a careful, somewhat tense but completely flat tone and each fully focussed on their own topic. Still loud enough so at least 10 people in earshot have to listen.

He is awkwardly escorting her to her departure and I hope she goes on a different train then I do.

Heeeelp, I'm a naughty blogger, get me out of here!

Punternet Responses to Harriet Harman

2009-10-02T12:01:00.000-07:00

Harriet Harman, an English cabinet minister, claimed that she has asked California governor Arnold Schwarzenegger to shut down a well known website about prostitution, mainly focussed on the UK.

I am not going to waste too much time typing on this topic. The reactions from the participants speak for themselves.

Check the "Open Letter" and the Press release from Galahad and read the "Message(s) from the Ladies".

Take your time, read the whole lot if you can (and there was quite a number of Good Responses when I last checked).

I can especially recommend the reactions from Laura Lee, from CatherineIUSW, from Dollymopp, and from Melanie.

Now go do your own research, and form your own opinion.

Btw: does anyone know if Arnie has reacted in any way ?

Debate on Escorting

2009-09-30T08:40:00.000-07:00

The debate is on again: Julie Bindel versus the pimps (as she seems to perceive her opponents as pimps...).

Mind you, I am in favour of combatting exploitation, and protecting innocent victims,
cockle fishers and other trafficked humans.
But as I've stated on earlier blogs, I do not think the Escorting scene is the place to fight that battle.

Read the sweet-sour reaction from Amanda who witnessed the debate with Julie.

Check this very good blog-post here by Laura, and an equally brilliant reply by BurlesqueHoney (I have to find an online version of that 1937 speech...) The reactions of Julie Bindel in the comment-debate speaks for itself, I think.

And then there is the last burp by Harriet Harman. This seems more of a cheap-propaganda-stunt to me: she gets some extra press using the P-word and doing an equality-grandstand for oppressed female bankers. Me, I'm apalled to learn that female Sun-p3 models get paid more then their male colleagues. I wish HH would do something about that.

But, as a tired old man, I am also thinking: Should we care ?
I remeber the same sort of debate going on in 2008 when the criminalisastion of clients was discussed in the UK press.

From reactions then and now, I must conclude that, for me, this is not a battle worth fighting. The arguments are religious (from both sides, I presume) and any attempt to instill objectivity or science or anything else will not work anymore. Everyone (including me?) is too entrenched in their own position.

The religious aspect of the debate makes me sad. It means we are at the mercy of wherever the current moral winds blow.

The "moral majority" will generally come out on top, and the participants in pay-4-play will be pushed into the a-moral low ground. Funny enough, while condemning the bizz of selling plearsure for money, a lot of representatives of the moral majority (clergy, high-end politicians) are on the game big time themselves (insert your favorite example of a politician using escorts).

But I will not discourage debate. As with the crusades, I will acknowledge that those who undertake the expedition might come back, probably not with lasting victory, but at least with a wealth of experience.

As for "Prostitution", Dollymopp once summed it up nicely: "We are all prostitutes, I just make more money then you do."

In my opinion, there will always be forms of prostitution. Is a trophy wife being exploited? or is she preying on the male? Is a boob-flashing saleswomen being exploited or is the buyer being taken for a ride? Is the suger-daddy exploiting the girl or vice versa ? Is my regular exploiting me or are we just on a well-arranged date where I help with the cost of living ?

How can JulieB and HH every really come between two consenting adults ?
Did they really took the effort to listen to some of the more mature, independent Ladies in this business ?

But let me just instill a few rays of hope here: Not all Feminists are Anti.
Have a look at this paper and this summary here. There are reasonable Feminists, you just have to look for them.

And furthermore, many Ladies that have been branded as prostitutes or courtesans in their times, were hugely liberated, free spirits.

Many of them could rightfully sign their emails with the pretentious title such as "Global Thought Leader on Female Liberation"
(of course they didnt have email then, and these ladies were generally much more discrete - I'm just having a poke at some pretentious real-life empty-shell from the office)

We can take consolation in the fact that most of the Courtesans on that list had a bigger impact on history then Julie or Harriet.

Couldnt resist one more Feminist link I stumbled across...

Happy reading.

Women that are never wrong

2009-09-28T04:53:00.000-07:00

Very nearly I missed it: the FT list of the worlds 50 most powerful Women in Business (no silly, that other business, what civilians call "the real world").

Luckily, Lucy Kellaway drew my attention to it this morning.

Now, to draw the disucssion into "this business", I know a few Lady Bosses who run Agencies. And They tend to fall into the category of gentle friendly, and emphatic mums-next-door (e.g. good listeners; until you have made a decision and revealed your hotelroom). But they are also visciously Stubborn and are definitely "Always Right" (no way one can contradict them!). And that would put them right in with the two examples mentioned by Lucy: Hard Driving, Ruthless bullies that will get their way. End of.

Admittedly, the Lady-Bosses with hands on experience, the ones I had the pleasure of meeting on a date, have proven to be Excellent Companions.

It is not my cuppa, but is the future to the Dommes ?

Frank! There is a miss Whiplash for you on line 3...

Sandra Bullock

2009-07-12T03:26:00.000-07:00

Miss you babe!

Miss your smile.

Miss it when you speak.

Miss the way you move your hair.

Miss your body-language, your understated elegance.

Miss the way some people in restaurants look at us, and how we then smile at one-another (A basket of bread, and some olives... ?).

It may take a while, but We'll be Back.
Together.

Until then: Take Well Care.

Still over a 1000 miles away from you. I so mis you, it seems to hurt. I'm slowly going nuts here.
Today, some shopping-mall cafe played this as background music, and I nearly cried.
(google easily found the exact lyrics, the youtube link is on an older blogpost ..)

Look into my eyes you will see
What you mean to me
Search your heart search your soul
And when you find me there you'll search no more
Don't tell me it's not worth tryin' for
You can't tell me it's not worth dyin' for
You know it's true
Everything I do I do it for you

Look into your heart you will find
There's nothin' there to hide
Take me as I am take my life
I would give it all I would sacrifice
Don't tell me it's not worth fightin' for
I can't help it there's nothin' I want more
Ya know it's true
Everything I do I do it for you

There's no love like your love
And no other could give more love
There's nowhere unless you're there
All the time all the way

Oh you can't tell me it's not worth tryin' for
I can't help it there's nothin' I want more
I would fight for you I'd lie for you
Walk the wire for you Ya I'd die for you

Ya know it's true
Everything I do I do it for you

Birds on Boards - We've never been Hotter

2009-07-07T08:20:00.000-07:00

The two expressions from the title come from this column by Lucy Kellaway.

Lucy is Recommended Reading - every week.

And I can confirm that many offices have a much more interesting "office life" now that young, ambitious female managers are openly enjoying the use of their femininity as a weapon.

Flirting as a sign of Strength.

The young (and elder) male managers are in for both a treat and some unfair compeTition.

Have fun all!

The clip art is a lady in a Forties Style suit, it comes from a site that I found via Dollymopp. Last week, Dollymopp got stuck in a dress (or is that in a dressing room?). But she managed to get out in the end. In the writeup, she linked to a site that had that irrisistible picture on it. Thx Dolly.
(my all time favorite is the dress from the Venice photoshoot, but she knows that).

Sue and Angels4you in the news again

2009-07-05T10:52:00.000-07:00

An Angel blowing a Trumpet. No pun intended.

There is a lot to blog about this summer. I'd love to comment on the book by Bea (see link to the right) and some of the adventures documented on PN and PL. (links when time permits).

But as Friends come First, here is a pointer to the diary of Sue at Angels4you.

Against all good advice (mine), Sue let herself be interviewed by some local (?) newspaper and linked to the result.

All in all, the resulting article in EN (has anyone heard of them before?) wasnt too bad. There is a definite Business Angle to it. And if this helps making "the bizz" more transparant and accessible, I'm all for it.

Happy reading.

underwear evolution

2009-06-20T03:56:00.000-07:00

This came to me via a promo-mail for hotel-bookings. Apparently, hotel chains are trying lure visitors to London this summer with...
Naughtiness ?

Anyway, for the regular readers and other interested parties: have a peek.

As for the lingerie aspect: I prefer items that are elegant but can also be un-done easily. Nothing beats Nature.

Hello to Amanda from Scotland - and a (((HUG))) to someone Dear.

2009-05-24T02:57:00.000-07:00

Just two quicky items.

Firstly,
this is long overdue, but workie-stuff is catching up with me:

Amanda

How could I have missed this well manicured blog for so long?
Have a look at Amanda, Highland Escort.
Proud to have added you to my list Amanda.

Secondly,

An Apology

I had to Cancel a long-planned appointment. And furthermore, I hardly have internet access to send messages too. So here is a long-overdue (((HUG))) to someone very dear.

I am very sorry, but like you said: "These things happen".
It is great out here. It is a lovely job-stint, and an interesting place to be. But it is also a bit lonely out here and that suddenly struck me badly when a certain heartbreaking Bryan Adams song came out of the speakers in the shopping-area. I look forward to Catch Up with you when I get back.

The richest woman in Yorkshire

2009-05-22T02:23:00.000-07:00

Imagine being a foreigner of North African descend, with a funny french accent, sitting in a pub somewhere in Yorkshire.

Suddenly, the lady next to you touches elbows with you and says "I am the richest woman in Yorkshire".

Apparently it happened to Faoud Laroui, and he wrote a
book based on the encounter: "La femme la plus riche du Yorkshire."

I am currently not yet sure if there is an english translation out, or if the publisher is testing the waters, but here is one of the few english-language references that google could find.

I have just, by chance encounter, read the first few pages in french last week. But if I can believe the reviews, there is a lot more weird stuff going on in Yorkshire (I already knew that, but still...)

The book I have to get hold of,
The woman, I'd like to meet....

Mae West memorable Quotes

2009-05-16T05:09:00.000-07:00

Apologies for the low-activity. Too FFing Busy, too much time in-car and not enough on trains. But the season is nice for long drives so I dont mind all that much.

The life jacket is appropriate. I see people going down all around me, and some will need a life-vest (go on, click it!).

But due to a strike of luck, and due to the fact that my work-skills are well-suited to crisis environments, I still hop from job to job, and the assignements are quite interesting.

If only I could spent more time with my favorite-one (...she discreetly knows who she is).

The life-vest items mentioned by someone this week reminded me of a famous Lady, her famous buxom figure, and her even more famous
Quotes.

She was No Angel and she also featured in this classic movie.

I am slightly surprised she doesnt yet get a mention in the "Floozies in Film" list. But then she may, strictly speaking, not have played a Floozy in her movies.

But her reputation for Saucyness could rival with Anyone.

Speaking of Re-Surfacing: Myriad is Back on the blogosphere. Interesting text and Superbly chosen artwork as usual

Read the Escorting Manual

2009-05-10T01:36:00.000-07:00

Todays Image is of a tatood back. The reason will become clear on reading or clicking.

In earlier days, I have patronizingly posted about what I thought was the right attitude to become an Escort. And I still stand by my own preference for part-time defibrillated Ladies. Low key, discreet, and in it for the kick of rediscovered youth and a good time (she knows who she is).

But I also maintain that good Escorting is a form of Art[need link].
And one Lady who approaches it that way is Dollymopp. To her, Escorting is Sexy Art and Arty Sex. She could claim that slogan.dollymopp embodies that Perfect Courtesan, with personality, intitiative, and total dedication to her chosen Art. Also noticed that she did start off "part time", choosing Escoring as a temp-job that gave her a sense of freedom and power.

Ms Mopp has now published a brilliant post that I think is Required reading for both Customers and (future) Floozies: This is how it is. This blogpost of hers is almost a "Manual to Escorting".

Having met Ms Mopp in person several times, I can only higly recommend her readings (and her good Dollymopping self as well - Mint).

Cheers Dollymopp.
(and good luck with your visit on Monday)

Varieties on the Girl Friend Experience

2009-04-25T07:58:00.000-07:00

There will be a movie out titled "The GirlFriendExperience" soon and I am going to see it, but maybe not with Mrs Ptr.

In the mean time, here are a number of varieties on the GFE theme.

Enjoy.

And I might see you in the cinema - well some of you.

the voice of an Escort

2009-04-02T08:33:00.000-07:00

Many arrangements can be made by e-mail or text, but I always find it re-assuring
to at least briefly hear a voice when finalizing a booking, especially with an Indie-Lady.

[Image: call centre joke]

I have mentioned before [get link] that emails, Instant Messages, board-PMs, and text-messages are all "anonymous". Those communications can all be "outsourced" to a third party acting on-behalf-of. And I have known cases where a partner, an agent, or even the children(!) of a Lady handled mail or text for her, including the mandatory "huni" and "xx".

On some agency- and indie-sites, it states that confirmation for a booking should always be made by voice-call. This is supposedly to ensure that there is a more or less reasonable sounding, and sober person on the other side.

Likewise, as a customer, I prefer to have at least a brief voice-conversation with the agent or Lady. Admittedly, it is not a total guarantee, but especially in the case of low-key indie-ladies, it gives me the assurance there is an intelligent and sensible female on the other side of the line.

Ditto with Ladies that I have not seen for a while: I like to confirm it is actually still Her on the other side of the text-messages and not for example someone who got hold of her sim-card by whatever means.

Now recently, I came across a Lady who preferred to communicate only by SMS.
And when I gently but repeatedly suggested that we have at least a brief voice-call to confirm the date and give her the hotel and roomnumber, she suddenly reply-texted that "something was unsettled" and stopped replying. She didnt pick up the phone when I rang and it got switched off straight after.

Am I Funny ?
Was I too careful ?
Was there a mis-understanding in our texting ?
Was she in an area where she couldnt answer the phone ?
Potential scam ? I wouldnt suspect so, but I preferred to stay safe.

Maybe she just thougt it was too much "cloak and dagger".

I Will try again somtime, but I am sticking to my principle and stick to a brief voice-call to make Sure.

Suiteable Images :
cloak n dagger ?
some spy-novel cover ?

Couldnt find a suitable image fast enough, so decided to just put on some of my favorite music. Enjoy!

the potent power of personality

2009-03-22T15:08:00.000-07:00

An article about Dido Harding in FT last Monday drew my attention. I couldnt help to admire her charisma as it bounced off the page from the article and even from the totally obligatory picture of "boss standing in supermarket isle". I would love to have a quiet and private dinner with her! To put it bluntly: I lusted after her.

The article reminded me of meetings I had with with some of the more Entrepreneurial and charismatic Ladies from the scene. And then, recently I had a few really hot dates with a relatively high-profile Lady in London. A real personality who regards this job as a true calling. And she is so very very good!

Is this a sign I'm becoming a "hobbyist"
or a groupie,
or a whore-hag ... ?

Despite of what the non-fluffies on PNMB[link] will say, Personality Really matters when you play together. There is something very horny about being with an Alpha Female or someone with a Stong Personality.

In some cases, I already knew she was a "Madam of Repute" and found the meeting going surprisingly horny. In other cases, I didnt know on "first date" that the Lady in question would be moving on to become an agent or would compose (or arrange for) a Crisp Internet Presence. But in several cases, I could sense the potent-ial of her personality. And those Ladies also understood that there was more to attract me to them then just their HHuge tits and skilled oral.

In all cases, the detection of the "charisma" was a huge turn-on. Some of these Ladies would make excellent Leaders in civilian life, notably in dynamic, creative and slightly chaotic environments. The kind of persons you need in today's crisis...

Caveat: there is a thin line between Charisma and Castration. I would never have that sort of sentiment with for example Maggy T. And Cherry Blair, no matter how powerful and capable, does nothing for me. Madonna a sex symbol? ... she leaves me stone cold. Always has.But Lady Mary Archer... or Lucy Kellaway... or Dido... Unfortunately, those gems are spoken for already. Maybe I should re-consider Livvy...

So the questions would be, for the guys:
Does it turn you on to know (or to sense) that your partner is a strong personality, capable of "running a business" ?

And the question for the Ladies:
Do you get an extra kick out of knowing the the guy you are with is leading a medium sized enterprise, or is the Boss of 300 hardened Construction workers ?

Or am I just getting celebrity-obsessed ?

smoking leads to good sex

2009-03-01T09:35:00.000-08:00

Earlier, I was ranting on about the way Cigarette-Craving can be used to sabotage a meeting. Especially the more experienced dyed-in-tobacco routiniers, and many EE ladies, are good at these tricks.

But I have also had brilliant meetings with Ladies who knew how to use smoking as a subtle turn-on to make the meeting even more exciting.

Luckily, due to my background a whiff of smoke is not offensive to me. A slight taste of smoke in her breath and in her kisses acutally has something exciting. On Occasions, for example we have played snowball with the smoke.

But too strong or stale smell of smoke is a no-no. Then it just seems like bad hygiene to me. And a chewing gum or mint at the last minute doesnt work! Unless you dont kiss at all, both the smoke and the gum leave a bad taste. And LOL if the chewing gum comes out after entering the room, or - wait for it - stays in during the date. Some women...

On the positive, however, it can be quite erotic to meet a Lady who smokes.
I recall there were times when it was considered indecent for a woman to smoke in public, and I can understand why.

It used to be in the U.S. that a woman smoking was associated with loose morals, and in the 18th and 19th centuries, smoking women were viewed as fallen women. But it was also seen as a sign of Freedom. Some of that history alone is good enough to make smoking an interesting part of the game.

In the setting of a meeting, I find there is a strong Erotic suggestion in the way a clever woman handles the cigarette. When she brings it to her face, and inhales from it. Especially when a skilled seductress maintains eye-contact with her victim while delicately touching the little white item with her lips, causing it to glow slowly, longingly.

The fire reminds you both of the burning desire inside. The glowing ashes carry the promise of hot pleasure that will last. And then the way she keeps looking at you, full of promise, while inhaling from the little stick between her carefully painted lips.

The inhaling and exhaling will cause her breasts to slightly move up and down, but you try not to look at those, you maintain eye-contact. And you try not to to watch at her re-crossing her legs, and leaning slightly forward to both show her cleavage. You can only think of where her lips can go in the next minutes.

(Flashing images and memories force me to take a break here...)

Smoking: Escort Sabotage or Erotic Stimulation

2009-02-28T09:14:00.001-08:00

Many Ladies in the Escort or Companionship Business seem to be smokers. And if you are a smoking Lady, you have probably found out how your smoking habit can be used to your advantage.

I found the ciggy can be used to either sabotage the meeting, or to enhance it. "Sabotage" is unfortunately used more often then Stimulation.

The cunning courtesan can use the Craving for ciggy as an excuse to create one or more convenient counterpoints during the meeting. She can also use it for a get-out-quick if the meeting is a dud and she wants to end it early: "I'm off now luf, time is up and I soo need a fag" (grabs bag, fumbles with pack of ciggies and runs for door).

A mouth full of stale smoke and tobacco stains and smells might also prevent a punter from trying to properly kiss you. So if you are not into kissing, but your agent still lists that as a service, then smoking, recent spicey food, and the last-minute removal of a 30 second old chewing-gum can all be part of your line of defense. You still pretend to engage in the action, but your part-time partner will hopefully avoid too much activity in the mouth-to-mouth department.

Whether smoking is allowed in the room or not, or whether any smoke-detectors are present, that seems to be totally irrelevant to the determined woman. Smoking, or rather the need for a nicotine, is a perfect means to break the rithm and to buy time.

Certain Ladies carry tools or exotic screwdrivers solely for the purpuse of sabotageing the windows to be able to smoke (or possibly also to throw the client out, if he gets uppity ?)

"I really need a smoke first, mind if we open the window?", Whithout waiting for a reply, she starts purposfully but awkwardly to manipulate the
secured window for 10 minutes, optionally throwing a tantrum in the process.
This is followed by another 10 minutes of slowly indulging in her addiction, near the window. Of course she will adopt a position that defies anything that might happen between consenting adults. And in winter, the cold air streaming in, chilling your toes and other vital parts, is a welcome ally to the woman who wants to prevent you from becoming too hot for her.

No convenient windows? No problem: "Now hunni, while you get yerself ready, I'll just pop to the loo for a quick ciggy to calm us down, shall I?." She will be gone for 15 min of valuable time. And yes, that can really "calm us down", both of us. Of course, she knows that on her return after a slowly consumed, savoured smoke, the chances of Vigorous Action are slimmer, which can facilitate her job a lot. "We dont seem to be in the mood today, do we?"

The smoke alarm has not happened on me during a meeting yet, but I did have my share of hotel-evacuations in the UK. Always with the excuse of "someone smoking, apparently, wont be long sir." It always Rains when that happens.

And whenever that alarm goes off, I always wonder: Would it have been a woman trying to get out with the envelope before "anything else" can happen between "consenting adults". I always look for females leaving the premises, but have not yet spotted a WL with certainty. They probably know their escape routes better then me.

However, smoking can also be a turn on. On a few occasions, when I knew the Lady to be a smoker, and the hotel had smoking rooms, I have booked such a room. Some Girls are delighted to be able to smoke and appreciate the gesture. I remenber one particular Lady who positively abused the possibility to delicious effect...
A Memorable Meeting it was - I did, and will return!

Also, with regards to smoking, some quite arousing images from movies like Basic Instinct and Wild at Heart come to mind.

More on the Erotic Stimulation of Smoking later (train pulls into station, and about time for a nicotine fix too).

Women that need a Defibrillator

2009-02-27T01:36:00.000-08:00

Anyone recognize the phenomenon discussed in that article?

I know of at least two examples whereby a thirty-something divorcee Lady re-discovered her "girlie side" and her Girl-Power via Escorting.

And recently I heard this very nice remark from my All Time Regular. It was during one of those meetings where we had oodles of time an no pressure to do anything. We had a nice spacious hotelroom with a sofa and something to eat and drink.
As always, she enjoyed the whole affair. Like she often does, she showed me her latest piece of good-time lingerie. I could almost see her glow with Fun and Pride. I am normally not into fashion-shows, but she is such a doddle that I just love to see her show it off before we gently take it off.

And then, totally relaxed, during the most tender embrace, she sighed:

"This is lovely, you know. This escorting really brings out the girl in me again.

I took it as a compliment, but it was really more about herself then about our date. I could see her ravish in the attention and glow in the realization of her Girl-Power.

She is the girl that inspired my take on "The Right Lady", an educated professional and a mother who does part-time, low-key Escorting next to a real job and raising real kids. Experienced both in bed and in real life. But intelligent and strong enough to not be tainted by the experiences.

A quote from the article in the link: The last thing a divorcee needs is a man who will make emotional demands on you, or drain the life out of you. You need a man who is life-affirming, who will make you feel fantastic and put the glow back in your cheeks.

Well, given the right environment, that is exactly what an Escort can get form a gentle client, a discrete non-pushy agent, and the right attitude. Because it is an "escort" date, and not some lonely-hearts advert or blind-date-setup from friends or colleagues, she knows she can walk away from it without any strings, emotional or otherwise. No risk of emotions or stalking.

Call me a fluffy or a sucker, but I really believe in the story of the Happy (Hobby) Hooker. It takes the right personality, the right customer, and the right agent or coach to make a good match. But when everything falls into place, there is just the Enjoyment for both parties. An affair with mutual benefits, and without the downsides.

Nobody can convince me otherwise.

informational message

2009-02-18T13:17:00.000-08:00

The image is from an Australian public information office, as this is an "informational message" posting.

Due to real-world workie-thingies, it is a bit quiet on here at the moment. Not enough train-rides, and not the right trains. I really admire the likes of
Livvy, Dolly and Aneris who manage to pump put a blog-entry with Admirable regularity (true Regulars eh?).

However, to come back to one of my favorite topics, "The Right Lady", someone on the PNMB mentioned this instruction video for girls with porn-star ambitions.

Ladies, if you are thinking of a career in Porn have a look, and a laugh.

Now, having grinned at that video a few times, the question arises: Is there a similar information video for girls who want to become Escorts ? Livvy, should we team up with ITV-Yorkshire and do a public-information production ?
All for the greater good, mind you.

run to you - back soon

2009-02-02T04:48:00.000-08:00

This was on the radio this morning.
Been in my head permanently.

Just made me totally Homesick.

Soon!

Cant wait to be back ...

and this one is for You:

Take Care, and see you soon!

Veggie Escorts for Better Sex

2009-01-30T01:27:00.001-08:00

You are what you eat.

And I still think I am a red-blooded, steak-eating, easily tempted male.

But this just ticked me off when I saw the news item. Oh, not the americans again.

To cut straight to the chase, here is the YouTube version of the ad that NBC apparently didn't want to show:

I bet you some of you pervs loved that video, eh Livvy ?

Now, I know a lot of you Ladies are animal lovers, but you often also are "foodies"

Which all begs the question: is PETA right ?
Do vegetarians have better Sex ?

nb: from personal research: at least one of my favorites was an explicit Veggie and animal lover.

Whores are Heroes

2009-01-05T08:50:00.000-08:00

The picture has nothing to do with Whores, but all with Female Heroes. Joan of Arc was one of those, hence her Picture.

Acutally, most whores are female. The female of a Hero is a Heroine but I didn't want that in the title.

The whole thing was put to my attention via Dollymopp. Her Dollymoppness is never short of
blog-material (actually, Dollymopp and Rhia Charles, and several other blogging Ladies seem to be in competition to educate us about the History of Courtesanship (and whoredom) in many ways.

The Latest piece of education in this friendly writing-competition is the blog of Dollymopp where she points to the 40 Reasons why Whore are Heroes.

The actual list seems to have been composed by Anny Sprinkler, who has a very interesting site dedicated to all-things-sex herself. Go and Check it all Out.

Oh, and a belated Happy New Year to All and Sundry.
Especially to You! You Know who You are.
Would insert one of our favorite Bryan Adams clips, if youtube didnt keep removing them for (c) reasons.

Hot Activity in Recession

2008-12-20T08:54:00.000-08:00

Something, or rather someone, is HOT allright.

This Lady, who used to work for a merchant bank a long time ago, picked up 247 men in one month. Her friend even managed 295 in a week!

When I read that column (catching up on my paper-work), my first reaction was: Damn, I missed one Great Opportunity (mind you, I wouldnt use anything like Illicit Encounters, for reasons explained below).

The Lady in question, on whom I have always had this secret crush, spent a sabattical month online collecting boyfriends under the pseudoniem of Sophie Scribe. The resulting column (read it here) contains some wonderful observations on the shady world of no-strings-attached meetings.

It seems that since September, the number of London-based males in the financial sector registering with this site has risen by 300 percent.

One of the possible conclusions is that the Credit Crunch (as we nowadays call the recession) seems to increase the demand for Hugs or intimacy.

I disagree with one statement though. John Quelch, professor of marketing at Harvard Business School, states that the bankers go in search for online fun because they are addicted to Risk-Taking.

This may be true for the Bankers, but I actually chose to go the "Working Lady" route to avoid the risk of an affair.
But then, I may not know myself well enough.
I'll discuss with my Favorite Regular on the next meeting.

Meanwhile, are any of the blog-visitors regulars of Lucy (of her column, I mean) ?

Frollicks

2008-12-14T07:35:00.000-08:00

Yes, I do have a good frollick from time to time, and will submit a few reviews at PN and TER. But very little time free time otherwise.

I've heard of the demise of Betty Paige, and am very sorry.

Lots of other things happening on blogs and board, but no time to get involved.

Later!

techie

2008-11-19T11:19:00.000-08:00

The title, part of the text in the top of your browser-window: it is (was) moving...
got this from a friend, a real tweaker.

Annoying?
Nice ?
Keep it or remove it ?
Anyone want a copy of the trick ?

large Tree and flowering cherries.

2008-11-09T09:55:00.000-08:00

Livvy seems to be on a (pervy?) autumn topic of quirrels and underwear. And Burlesque "lovin is her business" Honey is also in a most charming Rant Mode concerning autumn holidays.

It is the season. And I dont want to remain behind. So here is my autumnal-seasonal topic. And this topic is not pervy at all, despite the inevitable allusions that can be made with regards to large trees and cherries... (queue remarks from Livvy....)

Now I happen to have This tree in front of my house, a Fagus Sylvatica Purpurea (european beech), and it is Greatly Appreciated. I'll try to include a picture to illustrate how nice these specimen can be. When they built the house, they made the effort to conserve the tree. And with brilliant result. The tree gives a magnificent Cachet to the whole home-garden-driveway combination. It is also located south of the main part of the house and thus Ideal for shade in the summer. The previous owner(s) also had it cut so that you can park cars on the gravel-driveway underneath it, but I try to discourage that.

Displaying its grandeur and its obvious seniority over all of us (the house, its inhabitants and the ugly-parked cars, despite my NO Parking policy), the Tree in winter will graciously let the rays of sunshine reach through into the living and dining area. Thus providing us the illusion of warmth (helped by a nice woodfire for which I have to chop the blocks - good excercise, but often a lot of work, different story).

So my Rant ?

Eternal leaves! Every autumn the leaves and nuts of His Majesty, who is considerably taller then the highest guttering, must be removed before they clog up the drainpipes. This is risky business, as some of the walls require a 3-piece ladder.

You may think: fine, so he has to climb a ladder four times per year. Getting high-up is a speciality of Ptr, and a few trips up a ladder are a small price to pay for such a magnificent Tree? But the leaves (and nuts) of His Beechness, and those of the japanese flowering cherry always seem to fall at times when I'm not around. I have to find time to clean out the guttering and rake the driveway before it turns all mucky. Extending that ladder can be fun and a bit adventurous in a way, but rakeing up all the leaves is just tedious work. Anyway... more on the leaves and the rakeing later. Due to all that cleanup-work I still have to go out and chop some firewood for the evening.

Fun and Links

2008-11-06T02:22:00.000-08:00

High time for some lighter topics to forget the autumn-gloom from my last post.

My follow-up on regulars will have to wait a bit, but it is still lingering in the corridor.

Livvy did a nice seasonal topic on squirrels. Very appropriate for the time of year, but who is Livvy accusing of being pervy ? I guess size doesnt matter anymore eh?

Slightly more serious: I want to send my Thank You to Rhia Charles from down south for a nice link to my blog. This lady deserves a Salute for keeping a very nice blog with a large range of topics. Her items range from historic courtesans to Farming/DJ jokes and anoraky-pervy-topics on the ideal bum size.
Looks like Rhia will not run out of things to write soon.

And on a related light note, Dollymopp pointed out this topic on blogging and prostitution.

Admittedly, I have this twinge of jealousy for all you talented and creative Ladies out there. You have time to surf the internet in search of amusing topics to blog about. Thanks for sharing your findings. Keep going Ladies. I'll catch up later.

Need some Tender Love and Care

2008-11-02T06:30:00.000-08:00

This may be my most pathetic post yet.

Usually, I like my working life.
I'm often free like the wind, buzzing around the UK and the continent on trains and planes, with plenty of thinking time, eating well, staying in OK hotels.

But the last two weeks, I have been stuck in commuter traffic by car nearly every day. I was (am) totally exhausted this weekend. At dinnertime (today is Sunday), I'll be taking off (by road) for a soso hotel without proper internet access. And most of next week too will be spent in unpredictable trafficjams on drab foreign roads in between unpolite foreign drivers. And it will Rain.

Ten years ago, I used to love driving everywhere, and discover whole regions myself. Even non-glamourous areas were interesting to drive around in, I just enjoyed the roaming, and I often took pictures to amuse myself. But whether it is the increased traffic-density, the latest really-dire location, or just my age, I no longer take pleasure in motoring around. Give me a relaxed train any time.

Add to that the gloomy season, and the fact that I have not had a good cuddle for quite a while now, and a slight depression hits me like the cold weather.

And I really miss my All Time Favorite.
I Miss the cuddles, the cosy comfort, the familiar gestures, those delicious endless kisses, her facial expressions, the romantic dinners discussing down-home items while admiring her every move, even the hardly noticable gentle smell of her lotion or fragrance... The Special times we had together.
I really miss Her.

Anyway, This one is for You. For all the good memories.
(I have just discovered that youtube is disabling a lot of my favorite videos, will try to fix....)

This was the music, not the same video...(youtube keeps removing the (c) material)
meanwhile, here is an alternative link. And here are the lyrics.

And this music: Everything I do...

And here is to Hope! It may be Sooner or Later, but I Will return.

Until we meet again, Take Care!

Relax

2008-10-20T10:17:00.000-07:00

Rush jobby blog.

Seriously, I need to Relax.

After a hectic last week (dont ask), I caught a very sore throat, or "a lurgy" as they say up north. The Painful flying tells me my nose will also play up soon. But I cant just cancel trips because I have a sore throat.

And I'm now facing the rest of the week in commuter-traffic-jams and low-class hotels. And all that driving leaves me No time to seriously work on my backlog of reviews and blog-topic. Or even to follow my blogosphere buddies, courtesans and Artists.

I soo need one of these:

Anyways, I'm prolly off the net for a bit (catch my clicks when you can). Yall take care now, and see you around. Laterz

Regulars - An affair without the downsides.

2008-09-30T13:22:00.000-07:00

For those who doubted it from my previous post: I am solidly in the Pro-Regular camp.

I Adore my regulars, and I am in the illusion that they like me. I hope they don't find me hard work. If they simply like me because I am easy-money, then that is fine with me too. As long as they make the meeting enjoyable to both of us.

I have stated this in earlier writings: Good Courtesanship and Good Acting are forms of Art that I can appreciate. And with a select few, I have the near certainty that the sympathy is mutual.

A "Regular" in a play4pay relationship is something you need to develop together. Both parties must be willing and able to enter into something Special. Something that will grow into more then just the first-sight-sympathy and the bedroom mechanics. It is possibly dangerous, but if you "let it happen" it can be very rewarding.

When you get to know a person a little better, good meetings can turn into Fantastic Meetings. There is the additional comfort of knowing the likes and dislikes of the other. ParadiseGirl22 provided the ultimate statements on the "regular" right here.

A good regular really does come very close to what a passionate affair must be like. And meeting a lovely and talented person make me feel all young and giddy again (yeah, I know, midlife crises etc...). A good regular Lady is indeed almost an Affair, but if both of you play the game correctly, it is an affair without the downsides and with much less risk.

A regular, especially one who does the GirlFriendExperience, is a "relation in a box". I have actually once seen a Lady described as "an affair on Legs", and I though that was rather appropriate: She was indeed Very Good! I could see why men would fall for her. I probably fell for her.

Now, admittedly, most clients (and some Ladies) are in this bizz to avoid all the downsides that come with a real-world "relationship" or an affair. There is a lot of truth in the saying "you pay the Lady to go away afterward" (find source, link). And some of the more adventurous Ladies in this business may also tell you that they prefer this over proper Boyfriends to avoid stalking after the affair is over.

The reader may have noticed that I have not yet elaborated the downside and the risk of regulars. I'll give that a good thought, and continue on the topic later.

Escorts and Regulars: blessing or curse ?

2008-09-12T08:38:00.000-07:00

Several pointers prompted this topic to re-surface. There was This Thread on Punternet where several writers questioned the advantages of regulars. It was mentioned that a regulars can easily turn into hard-work-dates. Possibly because a regular is tempted to abuse his loyal-client status. And an infatuated or disillusioned regular can become a stalker.

Chevalier and Jenny pointed out something similar, whereby active board-posters or internet-players (that could be me) become too friendly and try to abuse their position.

And there was Belle/Billie who stated that Regulars, depicted with flowers, a bottle and a happy smile, are "The ones that make this job really worthwhile.." (boy did I feel flattered when I heard that...)

There has also been some bickering over what constitutes a "regular". Some clients have met someone 10 or more times and start to consider themselves "regular", whereas others think you can be regular after the 2nd meeting.

Myself, I once stated: after 3rd meeting, and if the experience consistently improves on each subsequent meeting, I'd consider a Lady to be a "regular".

But there is much more to a regular then just Frequency or bedroom-mechanics. Personally, I now consider someone a regular if we have met repeatedly and if we get along really well on various levels. There has to be a genuine sympathy, a connection, a deepening of the relationship, and a clear and honest appreciation from both sides.

For example, I have had extensive email-exchanges with some Ladies and I would gladly, with their permission, brand them as "regular" after one or two promising meetings.

Question to the Lady Readers: I am quite curious to hear the Ladies define "regular". And what are your opinions on a "good" regular are (if such a thing exists at all).

Meanwhile: Cheers to my All-time Favorite. You know who you are, and I hope you are doing Well!

flattering picture

2008-09-01T00:07:00.000-07:00

ok, since the PN MB does not support embedded picures,
and a direct link from on there didnt seem to work.

Here is the picture in question:

nb: No, I'm not a republican.
I'm Independent!

And I disagree with just a bout all of her Views.
But you got to hand it to her: she appeals to home-town USA.
And I would probably like her if we ever met.
And she looks Nice!

The Romantic Kiss

2008-08-26T02:37:00.000-07:00

Chevalier pointed to a topic on Kissing recently, but in my opinion the original was a little over the top. Literary.

On reading it, I Wondered about the Godelian kiss though. Should it take you into another dimension? That is exactly what a good date does...

To balance the seriousness of Chev's original post, I would like to propose more attention for the Romantic kiss.

Forget all the literature and science.
I think a kiss is supposed to bring two people together. To bond them, to make them melt, fuse.

A romantic kiss follows from good chemistry and enhances the intimacy.

A romantic kiss transmits desire as well as Respect.

A romantic kiss shows affection, appreciation.

A romantic kiss celebrates the meeting of minds as well as bodies.

A romantic kiss is savored, relished. It is a Delicacy.

A romantic kiss can be a prelude to bliss or a desperate last goodbye - with hope for later...

A romantic kiss will Always be remembered.

She knows who she is!

Music

2008-08-18T10:47:00.000-07:00

Over the last 22 months, I grew attached to a certain playlist on my laptop. Here are some Very Good Memories.

The first soundtrack was particularly hard to find in acceptable quality. Be patient, the messy intro is rather befitting....

This is how it feels:

tags and blog games

2008-08-13T13:39:00.000-07:00

That time of the year again: I got tagged by Chevalier.

NB: Apologies is this one is a bit of rush job, I'll try to beautify it later this week.

The tag-games between bloggers, are like chain-letters.

If you want to play, it goes like this:
- Some fellow blogger tags you.
- you go read his blog: there will be an explanation like this, and "the mission"
- you do "the mission" : generally write up a list and tag 1 or more others.
- you post your writing on you own blog, while linking back to your tagger.
- you go and put comment on the bloggers you tagged (Targeted!)
- you wait for the links and comments to come back.

Upsides:
- you get comments and links, sometimes from unexpected corners
- a good "mission" good forces you to think before you write.
- if you are lucky, bloggers and readers with similar interests discover you, and you discover others that make you think.

Downsides:
- it eats into your time (I have a lot going on, and it Is holiday time).
- you need to search victims, and the exploding numerals mean a lot of your blog-friends may be tagged already.

So here is my list of FIVE things I'm GRATEFUL for:

- Trains. They get me around, and allow time to think and write.

- Laptops. Ideal for communication and allow me to work almost anywhere.

- Internet. Ditto. Changed my life.

- My Wife and Kids. I have a very nice family with very little trouble at the domestic front.

- My Favorite Regular. She knows who she is. Long may we meet.

Now for the tags. I need to go and find 5 untagged victims in the blogosphere. And some of my latest blog-roll additions do not allow comments, hence I have to mail them and I hope they want to play.

- DollyMopp. Hope she comes back to life after posting "I'm Alive" on her blog.

- Burlesque Honey. Another blogger who seems to be on summer-break.

- Josephine. Strumpet and Sensual.

- Lara. Rambling on in the nicest possible way, Currently doing London from Fulham.

- Penny. See what else she can be passionate about.

There you are!

With apologies for those I have not (yet) tagged. You may be victims on the next episode.

And if any of you dont like blog-tag-chain-letters: no offence. I understand, and I have declined a few of those tags myself in the past.

so many topics, so little time.

2008-07-25T07:44:00.000-07:00

There are a number of topics waiting for a write-up on, but I don't seem to have enough train-time these days.
Item like like "The Bliss of Regulars",
the fact that "Escorting is the new Temp-Job",
or why I still think "Part-Time Yummi-Mummies - PTYMs" are the most delicious Escorts I've met.

But as I look at another week of car-traffic-mahem, I'll just opt for the lazy solution: Links!

On the topic of "The Right Lady", alllow me to point to this good discussion on Punternet-forum

And although I probably wouldn't like the guy if I met him, I am glad Max won his battle with TNOTW, Interesting details here.

Now, in my real-world, I came across this cartoon, that I duly nicked to show on here: go on, (c)lick it...

Intimacy

2008-07-12T02:35:00.000-07:00

Either I dont travel by train enough,
or I am in a "writers block" period,
or I am too busy supporting my Favorite Regular (big smile - I wish!),
or I'm just too lazy to post.

But on an impulse to fill the void, I put a question out on Punternet-forum.

What is Intimacy ?
and can you experience intimacy with a professional companion ?

Have a look at the results, or better: contribute!

PS: While looking for a suitable image, I came across a few additional keywords: "Reach out" and "Sensitivity". from this sobering image here.

PPS: And even the call-centre industry had a statement on intimacy (if I dis-recommend it, you will all read it anyway)..

Introductions

2008-06-13T13:12:00.000-07:00

Ok, as promised, here is the new intro. It is not up-to-standards as set by some of the blog-artists I'm reading, but here goes...

Keywords still are:
Fun, Respect, Opinions, Therapy, and (self)Advertising.

The statements of the original intro still hold, I write this blog in the hope that it contributes to my pleasure, my Fun, and partly to impress some of the Ladies I meet. Some posts will simply be jokes or links to other items, fun or serious,
on the internet. And because I write most of the topics while on the road, this blog also serves to amuse me while sitting in trains, planes, and waiting rooms. It makes the trips more fun.

However, I realize full well that it takes two to perform a tango. I have the utmost Respect for the Ladies in this game.

Sometimes there are messages for Ladies in the posts, and I've hidden a few names in posts. Or simply a romantic video or a boquet of roses for my Regular.

And if I ever write something that seems disrespectful or harmful to a Lady, please let me know and I will re-consider it.

Over time, I found the blog to develop into a bit of a manifest. Many of the posts on here serve to show my ideas on how civilized Escorting should work and what type of Lady I think is best suited for the job. I tend to describe the type of Ladies with whom I seem to have the best meetings, but of course YMMV. See notably the series on The Right Lady, and my views on Quality. I still stand by those opinions.

I do not pretend to be knowledgeable and I dont want to impose my opinions forcefully. But if a one person picks up on an idea that work for them, then I have alreay done some good to this world.

The additional advantage of a blog over just board-postings is that these pages are censored by me and only me. Not by some moderator who often has his own agenda for running a local advertising monopoly-fiefdom. There will generally be one or more regional forums covering your area, but the risk of jealousy, bullying and local quarrels is higher on the regional boards as the participants tend to be a small group of close competitors.

Serious discussions should IMHO take place on discussion boards with a wide-reach and many frequent and credible participants. For good discussions (and some good laughs) on this "industry" in the UK I would currently (june '08) recommend to visit the Punterlink and Punternet forums.

This blog is my addition to some of the discussions as it sometimes helps or simply saves me typing, if I can link straight to a blog-entry that contains my opinion on the subject. For example, when "scripting" or "Quality" is discussed, I have ready-formulated pieces on those topics, and I can just post the link, often with a summary for those who dont want to click.

Then there is the potential Therapy angle.

I'm only partly jokeing here.

By keeping a diary of sorts, I might actually learn a little about myself, my motivations and my path in life. I am just as self obsessed and narcistic as the next blogger. I hope the image is appropriate...

Finally the advertising angle needs clarification. I am not after freebies. That would never work. The infallible grapevine of working-women-only boards and jealous others would quickly put an end to my fun. And this is not a motoring-supplement of a local newsrag where "journos" and others in charge of "opinions" get to drive whatever they fancy (and possibly more) as long as they write up a free advert (I missed a job-opportunity there: car critic for a national newspaper, maby some paper is looking for a "personal services" critic...).

I see this blog more as a lonely-hearts advert. Some of the Ladies have indeed read a number of posts, and they sometimes read my ramblings on message boards too. It gives them an idea of the persona I am, and it displays my personal preferences. The blog shows my search for a meeting of minds as well as a meeting of bodies, and my dislike of what I consider un-natural or extreme acts.

This advertising-angle works!
I have met a number of VIPs (Very Intersing Persons) via this hobby who are active bloggers or board-posters themselves. On a number of occasions, notably with well established and confident indie-Ladies, our mutual internet-knowledge of the other has greatly helped the "click" and has increased the depth of our connection in the small window of time that is given to us (read: that I can afford). I want to notably pay tribute here to Xenia, an outstanding professional Lady, if ever I met one.
A Great Mind wrapped in a Delicious body.

But there is also to my Best-Ever Regular, with whom I have developed something very Special (she knows who she is, and so does her agent - Hi there!).
She inspired the articles on "The Right Lady" and "Qualtiy" and She has read up on my blog from time to time. It increases the Fun for both of us.

With her, it is Different.
And I am sure we would have an equally Great time, even if I never touched the internet. She is just .... Unbelievable.

Have I fallen ? Possibly. It is one of the risks of this activity. But it is a delicious drop in her arms. And we have always managed to keep the "barrier" in place: we do not intrude in one-anothers lives.

Thinking of You, and I hope to be back Soon Darling!

Have we been introduced ?

2008-06-12T07:51:00.000-07:00

Someone remarked that the intro to this blog is getting out of date. This was correct. I have learned a lot and moved on a bit in the year and a half since I started these scribbles.

So here comes the June-2008 update.

I will leave the old intro in place just in the interest of history.

I could also refer to my six words post. It was done in a hurry, but to my own surprise, it was remarkebly on Target.

But What should a proper intro be?
And how can I write about myself without sounding too braggish and without giving away too much of my identity ? I often wish I had the talent that some of you Ladies seem to have. I do get the impression some of you are online-marketing consultants
doing a bit of fun on the side. It is amazing how much effort and talent is displayed at some sites/blogs.

Take a look at Dollymopp. A Great Site and a well done blog, showing lots of personality.

Or go and visit Olivia, who displays the most charming, educated elegance (with a distinctly pervy side too). To avoid rewriting my own intro, I was very tempted to just refer the readers to Livvy, who once summed me up quite flattering as deliciously pervy.

Check Aneris, who is Refreshingly fank in her goals and intentions. And she does write a Lot.

And Eleanor, who does a superb job of projecting her
image and her personality with a series of topical blog-entries that also serve to subtly educate her "chaps" on her likes and dislikes. Some of her entries are even short Poems and her text is always accompanied by well chosen (and watermarked) graphics.
Those Ladies are Artist in my book.

Time to renew my own feeble attempt at the "why" and the "what".

I know what the keywords are:
Fun, Respect, Opinions, Therapy, and (self)Advertizing.

Now I just have to put some meat on those bones (nononono, no pun intended - looks misprovingly at Livvy lewdly licking her lips...).

To Be Continued...

Hot and Sweet

2008-06-09T15:50:00.000-07:00

Backlog of real-world work and blog-ideas. Patience.

However, as I was finishing off and decided to make a cuppa (this hotel has an OK cooker, decent cups and even Earl Grey tea). And suddenly the Tea reminded me of a Special moment some weeks ago.

A rapid google for "tea" found this image of a tea-timer (didnt even know they existed) and I included it to keep my pervy-image up (hi Livvy.)

A good cuppa takes a bit of time, and it seems the further north you go, the stronger they prefer their tea.

But to do a very dear memory justice, a 2nd search for a proper "romantic tea for two", found the Video below. It only has one fault: There are not enough roses in it.

Now before I go all soddy like the biscuit, I'm off to hug my pillow. Long day tomorrow.

To Be Continued.

2008-06-03T12:55:00.000-07:00

Please accept my apologies, as my blog is a bit erratic these days, time, life, real world etc... But I do try to keep up reading my bloglist (Hi there Alexa, Aneris, Livvy, Sue, no worries, you are never far from my mind - x !). I am after all just a little curious.

In clicking about, I came across the Cartoon-preview from Dollymopp.That rang a bell! And after my hommage, I am on a bit of an Art-Trip. Remember that I have sometimes called "Personal Services" a form of Art?

As for the Artist we know as Dollymopp, I already thought Dollymopp resembled Kelly, the head-girl of St Trinians (2007). I disagree with the critics, it was an OK movie to watch, and I dont say that because I am a pervert. It was a funny, comical, feelgood movie! Fun to Watch and with some nice examples of female Empowerment at that. Soundbites like "It is no use relying on the grown ups, we need to sort this ourselves" tend to stay with you. And the tune stayed in my head for days.

Then there was the striking resemblance to the bad-girl in Indiana Jones IV.
Again, I disagree with the critics, the movie is Fine. Truly Indiana Jones, including the end.
I willl be an Indie Fan even when they decide to do a pre-quell after indie-XIII flops, if only because Karen Allen was an early crush of mine!

But cartoons..., that opens up a whole new set of possibilities ....
Can we expect a TBC series with Her Dollymoppness ? I'll be (c)licking from time2time.

In the mean time, her teaser-cartoon has awakened my ancient hobby: Cartoons, or in frech: BDs (no, not what you perverts think). Although this was a nice trouvaille...

To Be Continued....

How to write a Homage

2008-05-17T13:15:00.001-07:00

Literature is full of references to Working Ladies. And many Working Ladies are avid readers themselves. Dollymopp, Nia, and Various other Ladies have lists of books on their sites and often they refer to Lewd Ladies in Literature or Harlots in History. Recently there is also the class of Babes with a Blog that have ventured into books and sometimes even into TV series.

I never had the ambition to be an art critic. My taste is nowhere near that of the fashionable in-crowd, and I would not be good at rubbing shoulders with the self-important, narcistic egos that populate the art scene. They seem to be in permanent ecstacy towards the latest erratic oeuvre. I just read what suits my mood, and generally listen to upbeat music of 30 years old. I have nothing against drama-queens (male, female or whatever beer they are) but they are Not my cuppa.

Nor was I any good at literature-classes in highschool. I always thought the "Search for Meaning" and the symbolism that some interpreters and reviewers attributed to books was grossly exagerrated. As I got my dose of high-rolling Art rammed down my throat I had some frank discussions with my teachers. I tended to make fun of what they called Art and I still cannot resist that urge to ridicule sometimes, hence this blog entry.

During later periods though, as I grew out of my "teenage rebellion" phase, some of that force-fed "knowledge" remained and there were a few books that stayed in my mind. One of those was "Lonely Road" by Nevil Shute and it came to my attention again when I did the item on "floozies in film" to point to Eleanor. The Author wrote this book, his 3rd published work, early on in his writing career. He was still only a part-time writer, and was focussed on his main profession: Engineering. Shute was working in the exciting new domain of aircraft construction, but possibly in a rather boring job of engineer/calculator.

Something in that particular book touched me way back then, and touches me still. I have recently re-read the early Shute novels and I still like them. But reading them with my newly aqcuired background of being a client gave me another slate on things. It is possibly that in his first book, "Mazaran", Shute projected his own desires onto his main character Philip Stenning. Stenning
is a bold character, a fighter pilot trained during WWI living a relaxed,
but rather wild life as a civilian pilot in the roaring twenties. We learn that Stenning regularly had wild nights in the company of "flossies" of whom he speaks very positively and with much respect. Shute may have tried some of that life but as an engineer, he would lack the audacity, the spending power, and the sheer raw attraction that a pilot and war hero could bring to the party. Shute sometimes sounds a bit envious of Stenning when he composes the narrative.

Enter Commander Stevenson, the main character of his third book, "Lonely Road". In Leeds (of all places!) Commander Stevenson meets a "professional dancing partner" by the name of Mollie Gordon. Mollie is a Delicious and Adorable Doddle. And despite their differences in background Stevenson and Mollie get along just Grand. At no moment is there any hint that Mollie ever did what "other girls who go out with gentlemen" seem to do. Stevenson and Mollie, despite a certain provider-client relationship, and in defiance of the espionage-intrigue around them, live a perfect pastoral romance. They fall hopelessly in Love. My theory is that Shute wrote this book as a homage, a tribute to a Lady with whom he had gotten a little too close. A hidden and hopeless romance? A Muse?

You can all think of this what you like: Projection? Fantasy? Joke ? But I suggest the romantic readers among you go see for yourself. I can go on about this for many more lines, with supporting clues and hints from the book, but why not go and read for yourself? It is a very moving story with several nice, unexpected twists to it. It will be particularly interesting to see what Ladies and Clients make of it. If any of you find the hidden and subtle references to "the bizz" and to a "relationship", make sure to report them. And you may even go on and read other books by Shute. Have fun in deciphering the puzzle!

Floozies in Film

2008-04-27T18:00:00.000-07:00

This was a nice Discovery : A Filmography of Floozies in Film.

Many Thanks to Eleanor for composing that page. Her list is a goldmine of interesting movies that touch on the subject of Courtesanship, Escorting, or just plain working.

And Eleanor is well documented, she has really gone into the historic days of cinema, going back as far as 1913.

There are the obvious titles, like Belle de jour and Pretty Woman. An unexpected mention (for me, but in hindsight evident) goes to Porkies...

And there was this title that really peaked my curiosity: Hookers in Revolt, according to IMBD it was inspired by the work of George Orwell....

It is a bit of a downer that one of my now-favorite movies on the topic, the foreign production Special Escort (2007) will probably not qualify for the list. Why not? Go see it!
I only stumbled across this "special" movie two months ago because it was shown on a Lufthansa long-haul (air-travel, another link with Eleanor)

However, I hope Eleanor will allow me to suggest a few additions:

[1936] Victory Hopper as Molly Gordon in The Lonely Road.

[1984] Kathleen turner as china blue in Crimes of Passion.

[1998] Rae Baker as Julia in Shadow Run.

The original book of Lonely Road is a good read too. Actually, that same, very civilized author, Nevil Shute, has touched the subject of "Escorting" a number of times. His main character of earlier novels, Philip Stenning, tells of a wild night in the company of "a flossie" that lands him 3 months in Jail (Marazan, written in 1926, no movie). And in his next novel, "Ruined City" (1938, no movie) the protagonist enrolls the help of a mixed crowd at a nightclub to pull off a business venture abroad. It makes you think how the author did business himself when he started his own company in the early days commercial air transport.

The last mention, Shadow Run, is a very English movie. And Ravishing Rae Baker is cast as the most Stunning redhead. A Delight to look at. Her Julie character is a very realistic Escort (I wonder, what research did she do...?). And the dialog between her and Haskell (Michal Caine) over dinner is Sublime! It reminded me of a very similar chat I had with a very similar Lady in the bar of a hotel, autumn of 2006...)

Anyway, I'm sure the readers can come up with many more... Just put them in a comment, or better: send them straight to Eleanor.

I will be off to HMV, Amazon and torrentseek with a list shortly...

Politics, Picures and Freedom of Frollicks

2008-04-10T15:28:00.000-07:00

There is a saying in a different language:
Even if you dont pay attention to politics,
Politics will come and pay attention to you.
There may be a British equivalent, but it does not spring to mind right now.
Would Miss Livvy be able to include such a proverb in next weeks lesson?

So politics have decided to pay attention to us. At least some of the UKs third-rate politicians in the desperate days of a disappearing parliamentary majority. And if these lawmakers get their way with the Industry of "Consenting Adults" things may get complicated. If we let them outlaw "pay for play" we may end up with no end of trouble - such as trying to prove/disprove that payment(*) was for, well, specific "acts".

Hence, like I wrote earlier, some of us will have to stand up for Freedom of Frollicks(**).

And I would not count on too much help from the average caught-out-MEP or exposed-hotshot. Those tend to dissapear silently. I know of none who turned around and stood up for the industry they had happily participated in.

There may be some help coming from an unexpected side: It was interesting to hear the moderate voice of these Ladies from the Women's Institute

Some credible participants in the industry will have to help to get the message across: Very Few Ladies in this line of work are forced, trafficked or exploited.

As the real world can easily verify, and as HMRC knows full well, many of the reputable indies and agents are proper "above-board" registered enterprises. As independents and businesses they benefit form the civil and legal infrastructure provided by the state. We should recognize that they contribute to the UK economy by providing an in-demand service, as well as an honest living or an interesting hobby for the participants. And as any decent and proper business they pay their taxes to keep the institutions of the state in proper functioning order.

No matter what a moral majority may think of these businesses: they are Legitimate! (I dont think those "Morals" are much of a "Majority", but it is hard counting things that people would rather keep private - myself included).

(*) Note that Payment is always only for "Time and Companionship", and such only to the point were both parties "agree" or "consent" to be together, stay together and possibly play together. Whatever happens is purely a matter for consenting adults who get along brilliantly.

(**) Make no mistake: I have nothing against a good, Credible, Crackdown on Crime. And I am in favour of combatting exploitation, violence or money laundering. But there are proper and existing laws to do that with. The recent wave of raids on parlours may be good proof of current legislation in action. So how many exploited and trafficked girls have been unearthed in those raids?
And what percentage of the total number of working Ladies or "escorts" in the UK is that?

What do pictures have to do with this?

We have seen the odd press piece and the documentary on Ch4,
some rare but refreshingly open articles every now and then. There were a number of more-or-less-credible Escort-authored books : Belle, Dawn - call me Elizabeth - Annadale, and the mother of all Happy Harlots: Xaviera.

And on this "trend" we are, gradually, seeing Agents and business owners becoming more and more "open" about what they do.

Several Agencies that I know now have the picture of the "owner operator" on the site somewhere. There already was the example of a well known, legendary NE agent/escort who had a (small) picture of herself up on her agency site.
And the other NE Escort who named the agency after herself and Proudly features herself as one of the girls.

And now recently an NE agency had a site-overhaul, and, low and behold: A charming and very recognizable picture of the owner features Proudly and somewhat provocatively on the front page.

I think it is quite brave of those Ladies to come out like that, given the possible repercussions and reactions of the community they live in. Would you want to be confronted with this job at the school gates? It has happened to some Ladies!

Being rather "private" myself,
I repectfully Tip my Hat to them! Well done Ladies.

Romantic, hopelessly Romantic.

2008-04-04T10:33:00.000-07:00

When doing the previous post, the silly chain-letter, I had to quickly come up with six (6, German: Sechs) words that characterize me. I didnt give it much thought. Did it while I was in a hurry, running on impulse.

I wrote the concept of that text while having a quick dinner in my favorite fast-food. Darn chain letters! I had Work to do, and I wanted to get ahead to make sure I would have an evening available for more important things.

I posted it without much thinking or editing a few hours later as I wanted to "tag" ppl before others would swoop them up.

Job Done.
Onwards I went onto Real Things - my planned Date was very important to me!

But maybe I am a bit of a Fluffy...
Afterwards it surprised me that those words, chosen "randomly" over a fast-food meal, describe Exactly how I want a Date to go. Let me re-visit them one by one.

Preparations: Mine are legendary. And several posters have Commented on them.

Respect: I try to invite real personalities, and I have great Respect for any Lady who endeavours "on the game".

Connection: I want to really connect to the Lady. And I greatly appreciate it when she returns the favour, real or acting (as long as I dont notice that it is acting, there is no difference!).

Tenderness: Essential for good inter-personal mechanics and that Deep and Satisfying Pleasure.

Longwinding: I do like to frollick for the full duration of our meeting.
I never tire of tender treatment. The real reason I date Ladies is to be Close. To touch and to be touched. To kiss and be kissed. To love an to be loved. Of course, the qualification "longwinding" was given to me for my endlessly long postings where ppl fall asleep reading.

Soporific: The night sleep after a good meeting is Very Rewarding. (and yes, someone qualified my writings a soporific, but I dont blame her..)

Funny how my 6 words, impulsively jotted, were Spot On.

However, the Main Reason for this post is a Thank You!

This week I had one of those Very Memorable meetings with a Real Lady. And this is my way of saying :

"Thank You Darling - You are Mint!".

You know who you are, Take Well Care!

Six Words and a five tags.

2008-03-31T11:17:00.000-07:00

Blimey. Or should I say “Darn”.
Chain letters.

At the Frantic start of Busy week, I find myself holding a chain-letter...
"Snakes! I hate ‘m Jock, I hate ‘m!"
"Oh come on, show a little backbone, will ya."
With Indy IV just round the corner, any Lady to volunteer to come and see it when it hits the screens in UK?

Oh well
swallow this and quickly find 5 victims, before the whole net is plastered.

The Roolz (as I've inherited them from Chevalier):

Write your own six word memoir (check)

Post it on your blog (check) and include a visual illustration if you’d like (still looking for good visuals)

Link to the person that tagged you in your post. (link to Chevalier, chev or "Jeffe" goes here)

Tag five more blogs with links (links under the names below)

And don’t forget to leave a comment on the tagged blogs with an invitation to play.

(* Ptr off to click his blogroll - Fast *)

So here are my six words:
Preparation - Respect - Connection - Tenderness - Longwinding - Soporific

Note to self: link each word to dictionary definition....
(the last word is a quote from a well known board-posting Lady, unfortunately she doenst have a blog.

And here come the tags.
Six, as I've decided to include Sue - Bless Her - at the last minute:

Dollymopp - up in London (avoiding that destination because of T5 currently).

ACDM.HKR - across the pond.

Beverly

LA Player - even further Westwards.

Kimberley in Essex - closer to base.

Sue @ Angels - and Sue has been way to serious lately.

Darn 'n Darn 'n DARN again.
I forgot some of them dont allow comments.
Resort to Email... (need graph of envelope)

So there!
Back to real work for me. (some graph of real work - spade? mud ?)

The graphics will have to wait till later tonight,
or L8ter tout court.
TTFN.
Grrrumpp,

Ptr.

Sitemap of my escorting blog

2008-03-26T16:07:00.000-07:00

As with so may real sites, and on the advice of a trusted operator,
I've decicded to create this index page, a sitemap, if you want.

Here are the introductionary pages,
they are the ones that say most about me and my preferences:

The very first intro - still very much at the start of my blogging era

Consenting Adults - the main topic, with some reserves

Outcalls, just my thing

My preparations - The Reference.

Waiting for Her

The Mind... it really is a mind game.

Seduction - mind and body

Broke my heart - sentimental ?

Just for Her - when it was all I could do...

Advice

Allthough as a customer, I am on "the other side of the fence", here are my Pedantic Tips for Ladies, Agents and others:

The Right Lady (TRL) - Well? Are You ?

Agency or Indie ? - I'm neutral

Agents and Indies Revisited

Before the knock on the door

Writing blogs and reports

The script for a date

Discretion

Recommendations - Risks and Rewards

Phone Etiquette

Outcall Advice

The links to IUSW and SAAFE

More Tips

The pictures dont do her justice...

Racks, of the female kind

(insert another favorite graphic of Lovely Deep Cleavage here?)

Food

Chocolate - Yummie!

Food and Frollicking

Nice boost of morale

General fun stuff

Punters - complete Morons

The knock on the door

Halloween with Olivia

Pulling on a train

Positions

Racks - some of my favorites

This movie was a good View

Links to other bloggers or sites:

Media stuff:

Radio Interview with an agent

Olivia in press

One very Smart Girl

$pread

My rant on boards and stabbings.

Message boards

Politics - not my strongest point
There is a saying in a different language: Even if you dont pay attnt to politics, Politics will pay attention to you.
That is what may be happening if the UK lawmakers get their way with this Industry.

Parlours

Christmas and Legislation

Oranized labour

Freedom of Frollicks

Various topics, hard to classify stuff:

Manners?

The Eternal Mystery

And finally, my ramblings on "the Quality-date"
(as some cynics will say: my specifications)

would you really want...

And I also ~~nicked~~ found this nice looking set of clickable buttons, they lead to various Industry-related sites...

Oh, and this video was a Good Laugh
(nothing to do with the main topic, but still.

Escorting - Freedom of Companionship

2008-03-21T05:29:00.000-07:00

The Picture is of a Knight Templar, and refers to "Crusade". The emblem of the knights Templar also reminds me of that most English of symbols, the St George's Cross.

I'm on a bit of a Historic trip for this post.

With all the political skirmishes around the subject going on in England, I have been tempted for months to write about the (out)law-making efforts around Companionship, Prostitution and trafficking. But I am no good at political pamphlets so I'll poke some semi-serious fun at the end of the epistel.

The current UK government (possibly in its final term) seems on a Crusade against those who seek "companionship and whatever else occurs between consenting Adults." One way the UK might try to stop Pay-for-Play (P4P) is to try and penalize those who pay.
The lastest from the solicitor general to be found here and the resulting disucssion on Punternet

Firstly, I am not really qualified to comment as I have never been "on the street" nor have I visited parlours. That just is not my kind of scene, and I would not be comfortable meeting a girl in those circumstances. However, I will not condemn those who work there.

But let me make no bones about it (bones? pun? nah): Forced or coerced providers should be avoided, and trafficked or otherwise forced girls need help. Preventing girls to go on the "street scene", helping those with a drug-problem, and clamping down on dodgy parlours/providers are all laudable missions. I will not dispute that.
But there is existing legislation in place for that already.

I am also of the opinion that Human trafficking is despicable, and any attempt to eradicate it is a good idea. In that I agree.

Where I disagree is that paid-for time-and-companionship is the major cause of trafficking.

I recall two high-profile and dramatic news-events related to human trafficking in Britain: The illegal immigrants that suffocated in a truck while trying to get into Britain, and the cockle fishers who died on a beach.
In both cases the people involved were very much tangible victims of human trafficking, but in none of these cases did the reports mention a clear link to prostitution, forced or otherwise. The victims of those trafficking incidents were far removed from the kind of persons I tend to meet for companionship.

My main point would be: Prostitution, and even the worst kind of 'parlour exploitation' (I'm sure it does happen, but on what scale?) does not seem to be a major cause of human trafficking. A renewed (criminal) focus on Prostitution with the excuse of preventing human trafficking does not make sense to me.

And the battle against human trafficking, in my opinion does not need to be fought at the expense of those who provide a clean an honest (above board!) service. The Ladies in this business, or at least the ones I meet, are all self-employed and tax-paying members of the community. They seem to have normal lives, normal personalities, and I have never seen signs of the stereotypical drug problems. The Ladies I meet all see Escorting as a convenient way to earn (extra) money, and some are at least partly in it for the thrill.

In earlier posts, I have expressed my preference for a certain type of Lady, TRL. But it is clear from the various websites, notably in the cash-rich London area, that there are many foreign girls in Britain who are "on the game". The tend to be aspiring models, students, translators, hairdressers, some are even college-educated but prefer to try their luck this way.
And some of those might even be illigal aliens. But even for those, I would question how many are here out of free-will, and how many are "forced".
And even the ones that are possibly here against their will do not need additional legislation. An increased law-enforment effort would probably be sufficient to discourage most of them.

A more rigorous clampdown on the business of Companionship, notably making it illegal to "purchase" services, will only drive the bad apples, those with truly criminal intent, further underground where they will probably cause even more harm.

History seems to teach us there will always be a degree of "cash for company" in any society. There is a reason why it is The Oldest Profession. And it will exist in the 21st Century, as this article from the US clearly shows.

The uphill Battle

For those who want to point out the disadvantages of the proposed legislation, it will be difficult to "speak up" for the discreet business of "Escorting".
Not everybody involved in this activity will want to stand up and "be counted". I for one, value my own anonymity and getting "outed" could seriously damage my job-prospects. And many of the Ladies I've seen, although they operate their business in full view of HMCR, they would not want to be "outed at the school gates". Some actually are moms and schoolteachers.

This means the counter-crusade to keep the business of "companionship" fully legal, is an uphill battle, fought from the "moral low ground". Not Easy.

Therefore, it is all the more important that the society we live in remains one of "respect" for other points of view. Freedom of Speech and the ability to criticizer the government remain of foremost importance. Our society can only progress through criticism and Freedom of Expression is one of the fundamental prerogatives to that.

Whether we like what we hear or not:
Feminists, moral crusaders, cartoonists, metric-martyrs, religious zealots and left wing extremists, all of those Must (sometimes unfortunately?) be allowed to have their say, and they must be allowed to dress in any (un-)revealing way they like.

It is not a coincidence that some defense of free speech came from adult-oriented circles, like Larry Flint vs Jerry Fallwell. It is ironic but significant that someone like Flint, out to make a hard buck from horny males and defenseless girls, and out to cause offense with great deal of conservatives, actually stood up to defend one of the most Basic Human Rights: Free Speech.

I will not go all dramatic with references to Magna Carta (1215), The bill of Rights (1689) and that other Declaration in a break-away colony (1776).
I would argue that Nations who were once capable of Great Feats like those should not show small-mindedness in preventing one person to pay the bills for another in an agreement of mutual consent.

However, these events in France (1789) are too nice to pass up, if only becasue to the nice graphic images. It seems the defense of some of the basic Freedoms, may well be the other role of the Adult Industry in society.

(Footnote: Oh hell, I am an Engineer, an Anorak. I suck at political pamphlets).

I will now try to leave the politics to others, and I'll just concentrate on my frollicks.

But To conclude on a light, colorful and slightly artistic note: Via a link at Beverly's I found this site dedicated to free-speech (with, admittedly, a distinct adult take on it). And it holds some of the coolest banners I've seen on the topic.

I am now off to nick some (all) of their banners and splash them all over my blog. I can appreciate some primary colors and some good old patriotism. Here is a sample with a nice historic ring on it:

Two Very Nice Links

2008-03-14T18:52:00.000-07:00

The Image to the left is a female Troll. I could not find an appetizing-enough image of a male troll. Hence this workaround. The meaning, if not sussed already, will soon be clear.

After comments or mail from a blogger or webmaster, I tend to go visit their place on the web. This is how blogging seems to work: you discover, you read, you learn, and you comment on writings that you find interesting. And sometimes you write your own.

And when I like a site or a person and their content is relevant to my topic I will add them to my banner-page or to the blog-roll on the right.

Hopefully my comments are not too "trolly." It is not as if I'm commenting just to receive more links or traffic.
Oh No no no, I'm after much more then just a comment or a link-exchange.

Now, I did hesitate about the next two additions (I was a bit intimidated):
Eleanor Aston and Dollymopp (yep, double-P, for a good reason too, go read why). Those two are clearly out of my league (for the moment, at least. I have not abandoned hope for my career yet).

But I would like to heartily recommend both Eleanor and Dollymopp as Very Good Examples of how an Escort-page can be done! Both are Indies and aim for the premium end of the Market. Eleanor even offers "exclusive" deals for an extended period (weeks, months, .. a whole year ... ?). If I was looking for a personal assistant, I would consider offering her a position. And if my career really takes off, when I finally can expense that private jet, I might give this experienced cabin-attendant a call. Until then, I'm afraid I'll have to make do with timesharing on NetJets. And maybe Commander Delamere will offer me a ride in her helicopter some day.

I especially love the distinctive style of Dollymopp. And the classy modern layout and Excellent Pictures of Eleanor deserve a photography award. And I wonder if I've ever met her on long-haul ... ?

Both Dollymopp and Eleanor have blogs with some personal history. These did awakens the pervy voyeur in me (Hi Livvy, I thought you'd be watching), and both have Interesting things to say about the business and life in general.

Now stop loitering here, Click and Go See !

Racks Revisited

2008-03-12T17:08:00.001-07:00

Just when I wanted to discuss floozie-movies and throw in the odd book-review, just when I also have a few ramblings on unions and politics....,

Exactly at that very moment, Sue the Superagent from Angels4You provokes me with a comment on Racks.

Thank you Dear. For keeping me awake at night to do another blog-entry.

Ok then, once more: No Lady needs a bOOb-job!

It is not really my business, and any girl is free to do woteva she fancies. But I will dis-advise any Lady to have a boob-job, always.

I have seen more "wrong" EEnhancements then Right ones. Most are just perky, or plain basketball-hard, and all are likely to cause problems sooner or later. Rember: they will require maintenance at some point...

However, as some have pointed out: I am a hypocrite.

Yes, I get turned on by Ladies with a womanly figure, curves are comfy! And yes, my all-time favorite (as in: my most seen Lady) has had a boob job. And she is Very Very happy with hers. She looks like a Million Pound Sterling (with the dollar falling...) and her surgeon probably makes that in a year - he did some celebs as well.

Hers are Delicious. Not Hard at all, very well shaped and still sensitive. Naturals. And her slightly enhanced figures becomes her very Very well.

She also has the moviestar-lookalike face, the yummi-mummy confidence that comes with experience and with a real-world Life (including being a parent, holding a proper job, and having normal hobbies besides being a part-time Escort - she is The Right Lady)

And she combines her womanly, size10/12 curvy figure with the perfect posture that comes from being Fit and self-assured (her other hobby is also quite physical). But still, she realizes that her proud DD assets can turn into liabilities. She knows she cannot run and that she needs a good-quality corset to ride a horse. And she realizes she will have to worry about the implants when the time comes.

So my final verdict would still remain: DONT!
Implants are un-natural.

However, I know that is easy for me to say. I am physically ok-ish, and dont get my self-esteem from the size of my pectorials (although I often wish I had broader shoulders), or from the length and width of my dick (mind you, I am exceptionally endowed - or so all my favorite Ladies tell me. LOL...)

I realize very well that a better figure will boost the self-confidence of a woman and may well get her just that little bit more attention that lands her Mr Right$. Men are generally just following their instincts when they approach a woman (I know, I am a man - or at least a wannabee).

Hence I will not stand in the way of a deliberate choice made by a Lady.

A, B or DD, You can decide for yourself.

Join the Union

2008-03-10T12:36:00.000-07:00

Union...??
Me ???
Bloody Communists they are!
Perpe-traitors of chaos, and weapons of mass-disruption too...

Ok. Now before I get accused of inappropriate fun in answer to a serious question, here is the more serious reply.

Firstly, I do still value my privacy. Hence I will not join any body openly. And for the same reason, I refuse to pay for sites like C69, or for Private-access to, say TER, no matter how much some Ladies recommend the site.

Privacy...
Yeah, I know, the driver sits at window of the club across the road, and therefore, some Ladies will peek through the curtains, or even just open them. One young and wild girl even did that dressed like Godiva (the Lady, not the chocolate), but her thick black hair was long enough to cover most of the sensitive parts. Nah that folklore of the window-routine is generally not a big problem, as long as we are still dressed: Ptr + Lady Wave to say Hi! Driver doesnt bat an eyelid.)

And just for the driver, this week I didnt just bring choccies, I also nicked a copy of Race-Tech international (Feb2008) from the airport lounge.

But secondly, let me draw an analogy as to why I will not join the union:

As a rail and air passenger, I have Great sympathy for the people that run those transportation systems. These ppl work really hard, probably at dire conditions. And they have to endure the abuse of my fellow passengers whenever the wrong leaves fall, or whatever the wrong excuse of the day is (... due to the slow network ahead of us. X-N appologized for any inconveniences caused by this delay ...).
They have my Sympathy!
But would I join their union ?

Their representation is a private matter for them. They need it, and I will not stop them from organizing. But that union will probalby create some friction between them and their employers - and any industrial action will affect my travel!
In some countries, the regular transport strike is just part of the local folklore. The French even thought they could win the olympic bid for 2012 by stageing a strike... Luckily the Italians hardly ever work to and their trains and planes are irregular at best, so nobody notices.

Now imaging a booking, where, instead of having a discreet Lady turn up, there appears a delegation of the IUSW, handing over a leaflet stating "We apologize for the inconvenience... "

Or a picket line at the local sauna club? Imagine what it would look like (and the management would bus in strike-breakes from eastern europe...)

So, I heartily recommend you have a read or even fill in the form, but I will respectfully stay out. If I ever come across a picket line of ASPs, I will be properly Cross. But also silently happy that the Adult Industry has Grown Up.

Coolest Escort this side of the Rockies

2008-03-03T13:01:00.000-08:00

A while ago, I came across Beverly "kiss me I'm Irish" Fisher.

She does a very nice blog on her own site and a more frequent one on Escortblogs.net as well.

Beverly also occasionally writes for $pread magazine and has this Adoreble collection of slut rants (if Livvy will forgive me my language).

But now the Beautiful Beverly is over the Moooon: She is quoted in a book, a Real Book. By a "Cool New York Writer". (I mean, any writer from, say, the west-coast or from the mid-west could write a book and quote you, but a book by a "Cool New York Writer", that is someting else - That is truly and decidedly Hip).

Although I would firstly associate Beverly with "HOT" rather then with "cool", this luscious red-headed Lady had just found "a heretofore unexplored degree of personal hipness."

Go see her blog entry of 23 March for details (and for the naked truth about this book). And dont you just love Beverly being sooo Happy!
(ptr gives Beverly a tender Hug - You Are Something darling!)

Now Y'all come and wonder over to Her site here, and join in the "Coolness." Because once you get there via "the Book" it is too late: you are no longer Hip.

OK, just because I have to do a pedantic remark:

Dear Beverly,

No matter how cool that book is, and even it were written by, say, someone from northern Siberia (now there is a COOL place - record-low temperatures, I'm tellin ya.)

No matter how cool that book, in My Humple Opinion, Dear Beverly, you are at least as Hip (or cool, or groovy) as any bigger-city-pen-pushing journalist.

I have read all of your rants, and I loved the read.
So get on the phone and find yourself that publicist.
I want my next book-reference to point to a volume written by You!

Regards,
Ptr
(a reader)

Weyhey!
I beat the all-reading-all-book-linking Nia to this book-scoop!
Doesnt that make me one cool intellectual dude ?
(ptr grabs duffle coat and flat cap - it can get really cold here up north, you know)

KUTDWWIH and HYCHPEAWKI

2008-02-27T11:48:00.000-08:00

What the H*** is that?

But the cause is worthy, Go and find out for yerself!

I'm still in doubt if I should join the debate on the out-lawing of payment-for-sex.

Changing position - a special escort movie

2008-02-18T10:11:00.000-08:00

Yep, another Movie on Escorting.

As I have only seen half an episode of the series with La Belle Billie (LBB, get it?), I do not yet have the same frame of reference that most of the UK readers have. I have seen an earlier movie, "Call Girl" and I found that to be rather good soft-porn, but not realistic.

However, by coincidence I came across another, more recent movie that treats the Escorting life and career more realistically: "Special Escort." The original title is "Changing Position", which also gives away some of the plot.

The narrative starts a bit slow but is full of small humorous items and references to other movies. Over time, the speed picks up and the movie becomes hilarious, all while remaining reasonably realistic.
The ending is not at all moralizing, but has a few obligatory "hopeful" twists to it for the feel good factor. It also invites to reflexion. The scenario was probably written by people with some good advice (or experience...?) from "the Industry".

Rather then glamorizing the job, as much of the chick-lit seems to do, this story remains neutral, but touches on a surprisingly large number of topics that a "professional companion" will likely come across on entering the business.

By depicting five workers simultaneously, this story is able to treat, among others:

The problems of (un)employment, either with a PhD, a failing business or a menial job, and the mounting bills.
The accidental solicitation by a client, revealing the tantalizing earning-potential.
There is the agony on entering the business, followed by the improvised briefings, primitive research and some hilarious attempt at training.
The recruitment process of a starting agency, looking for suitable escorts (yep, at the jobcentre), including a bloody nose.
An escort is shamelessly "entrapped" (on the very first gig!), and even makes the mistake of a hesitant brag about not-yet-existent earnings to the undercover revenue-agent.
Lesson: Never discuss your hours or earnings with a client.
There is the first, primitive, horrible, home made web-site by the enthusiastic agent, including a picture of an escort who did Never condone to showing a recognizable face.
The inevitable, painful outing (and the sweet, funny revenge), including the "breaking news" on the cover of a local newspaper. Guess what: that news-item leads to a barrage of both timewasters and real clients!
There is a virgin-escort who, after much hesitation, happens to meet a virgin-client.

And much more (watch the boss who fires one of the main characters at the start!)

As a bonus, the movie contains a number of cinematic references. And at least four of those clearly refer to particularly well known Iconic British movie. I'll leave the readers to find out which movie (hey presto Livvy: here is an enigma for you).

You can probably see that I enjoyed the movie, twice now, and I can warmly (hotly!) recommend it. Notably to anyone who is familiar with the industry. Comedy and tragedy go together nicely, and it invites to reflexion, thus making this a nice work of Art. (another idea for N-P...?) The hilarious waxing scene from the movie will convince anyone that it can be a particularly painful treatment.

And there is one particular plot-item, a major one, that I have not even touched upon (remember that the original title is "Change of View"). I could have chosen the title: "mirror".

Do yourself a favour, and Do Not read the critics or the IMDB entry: Rent or download this movie straight away and have a good laugh as well as some insight in this world of "The Funny Business".

Racks and more

2008-01-20T04:48:00.000-08:00

How could I resist this set-up?
Initially I wanted to elaborate on hotels, and my pedantic opinion on some UK chains. I've already
stated some of my thoughts on various posts and blogs and blog-commennts. Old news.

Then Of course, being called Pervy by such an expert as Livvy is a perfect badge of honour (the serious stuff will have to wait a bit still..)

Speaking of Pervy: "Pervert wear Purple"
This was just sent in by my Fave Lady from the North East...

Back to Racks.
I have never claimed to be an expert on Racks, but the picture will give you a clue. As an opinionated person, IMHO a Rack shoul be natural, and firm enough to be carried "free range" on occasions.

Some of my favorite Racks can be found Here - not just on Friday.

Although the all-aware Google will also turn up This Rack.

More positions, $pread the news...

2008-01-16T11:20:00.000-08:00

There I was, lost, looking for bearings, pondering my previous blog on positions (the serious positions-part, the part I'm not good at) and debating how to say something sensible about politics and proposed new prostitution laws in the UK.

And along came the lovely
Livvy, always well connected and clued-in. And she pointed me to this US based $pread Magazine.

Rather then me rant about politics or list the pros and cons of legalizing the Industry, I recommend you to go and enlighten yourself over at $pread.

Their motto is, fittingly, "Illuminating the sex industry". Their Mission Statement makes sense, and their FAQ is instructive as well. They seem a legit business enterprise, staffed by volunteers, most of which have "hands on" experience of the industry.

They actively seek involvement from their readers and the internet community. You can donate, subscribe or even submit an article or letter. I would not be surprised if Livvy would occur as an author at some point (can she resist?).

As modern media people, the $pread team also keep a weblog, so Go say Hi!

Considering the $pread motto: "Illuminating the sex industry", I think a picture of The best known Illuminating Lady is quite appropriate. It complements the the compass while I am looking for bearings and determine my position...

This Lady also nicely signifies the Liberating and Empowering effect that the sex industry had on many Ladies that I have met on the job.

Something for the UK lawmakers to keep in mind?

I'm off to add a link to my bloglist and a $pread-logo to my banner page.

Positions.

2008-01-15T14:42:00.000-08:00

The clip-art to the left is a "Position". A Lighthearted pre-amble to serious stuff.

With all the talk in the UK about new swedish-style laws around prostitution, I am again tempted to lay out lists of arguments. Help readers choose a position, so to speak.

A nice starting point is this article here. Do read the comments, as there are some intersting reactions.

Before christmas, I have already pointed out a post by the Luscious Livvy.

Lurking in the corridors was my link to this paper that explains the various arguments that feminists have had over prostitution. As is mostly the case, I tend to find myself in the rows of the liberals here. Not the US-style leftie-liberals, but the old-style Laissez-Faire school. The True Liberals.

However, after writing down my notes, arguments and questions in an email for discussion with a few online-friends, I also came across this "Position Page" and decided to put that up first...
Let me know what your opinion is (maybe we should have a poll).

While the readers browse-on and form their own opinions (or just have a laff), I will have my own ponder about this "Prossies and Politics" topic. I might put up a Posting if and only if I think I have something sensible to add. Otherswise, je vous laisse faire. You are all grown ups who can form their own opinion after all. But do not hestiate to share it.

A Great Boost.

2008-01-04T10:05:00.000-08:00

Before I forget, and before it is too late:

Happy New Year to Everyone.

Today, at the end of a very slow working week, I got a Great Boost, But...

I seem to have made a (small-ish) customer extremely happy with just a 2 hr phone conference. The analogy with phone-services applies. These people called me. I told them my opinions on the subject at hand, and it was more or less what they wanted to hear.

And I wonder if it helped that I had prepared various cheeses on crackers to eat (but orange juice to drink) during the conference call.

All while sitting in front of my fireplace with a laptop and a speaker-phone that was on long mutes half of the time.

A Dream job. Not to mention some happy managers: no cost incurred, so no hassle over which department pays my expenses (those FF-ing Beancounters; scrutinizing hotel-bills)...

Yes, a good start of the Year.

But...
I happen to be addicted not just to cheese and crackers, but also to travel and its perks.

And I feel the need to say "Happy New Year" in person to a few Ladies. That will be the real Boost for the new year.

Christmas Spirit and politics

2007-12-24T03:14:00.000-08:00

Christmas and Politics.

I am not good at either, so combining them is bound to be a disaster.
But I could not resist to combine a few nice topics found at Asda and on the Internet. Here goes.

Of course you have all already generously given to your favorite charity.

And by now (writing 24th Dec) you should have all items from your shopping lists done, wrapped and ready.

And you may have had your starting-tipple (or ten or twelve, most readers will be Brits, hence it takes a few ~~liters~~ pints of alcohol ...)
.

So here is my simple, but well meant message:

Merry Christmas everyone !

You are still reading.... ?

Good, then you might be sufficiently sober to take in the rest of my rant. With all this commotion about proposed new prostitution laws in the UK, the boards have been buzzing with indignation.

Trouncer wrote a good reply Here

Even our most civilized of liberals, our own Livvy of Yorkshire, has chipped into this political debate, and with some very sensible arguments to boot (proper Wellington Boots, thank you).

And with Livvy, I share the sentiment of "them today, us tomorrow".

In my personal opinion, the Gov has more important things on their hands then regulating a nicely contributing Companionship-industry. As for street-scenes and the dodgy-variety of parlours, I agree that trafficking and pimping, as well as drug-abuse, should be clamped down. But criminalizing customers will not work.

Combatting Evil (such as trafficking, exploitation and laundering) is fine and good, but not at the expense of disturbing a properly functioning market with consenting-participants who act out of free choice.

I would love to have a discreet chat with some of the politicians and decision makers (not always the same group) up there. I know some of them have had their fair taste of the services they pretend to decide on. but alas, due to either misguided information, selective blindness or plain laziness, they seem to opt for the simple blanket-solution of criminalizing all customers.

And to draw a comparison, seafood-addicts will not be criminalized, despite this grim incident involving trafficking and Exploitation

Now, We all know that writing letters to politicians doesn't help, they need more convincing arGBPuments... Sex, Money and even votes speak louder then emails.

So to stay true to the Xmas spirit, rather then writing an angry letter to Mrs Harman or to your local MP, why not send them a nice Christmas Present?

How about This Happy and Entertaining Item (notice the suitably red colors)..

Also for sale at your local Asda (slightly different packaging, but same festive color).

And who knows what goes on in the mind of a politician or decision maker when they contemplate this fine, classic Work of Art while they are stuffed with 10-months-old pudding and under the influence of some proper English "spirits"....

Merry Christmas everyone !

(and please don't send me texts on my mobile - use Email instead, thx.)

Just Smarter

2007-12-21T11:22:00.000-08:00

Nia, Part time Escort, and a blogger who is ever on the pulse of the news, pointed to an article about one very Cunning Lady.

Go see and determine for yourself how smart the girl in the article really was.

This article raises some questions, at least in my mind:

will men ever learn ?

Is it typical that she choose "heirs" rather then self-made Men ?
Is this a very good tip for other GDs ?

And is it not befitting that men who just follow their addendum are treated this way ?

My bonus question : So What? Did she do anything wrong ?

Did these guys not simply got what was coming to them, victims of the darwanian process that has formed mankind ? These men were clearly in charge of something that they could not manage, hence Kuddos to the girl for "taking care of that".

I have some respect for those divorce lawyers, they know how to seize an opportunity. But no more then respect. They must be one set of nasty vultures.

Needless to say, I silently admire the Girl. She must have a hell of a charisma, and must deliver a very convincing GFE. I hope this "Working Lady" is clever enough to hold on to some pocket money after her legal bills.

Cheers Mrs Crossley!

Her Pictures do Not do her Justice

2007-12-20T12:53:00.001-08:00

There are numerous cliche-phrases that re-surface time and again in reviews or field reports, both on Punternet and on other review-sites.

The most used one is probably HPDNDHJ: "Her Pictures Do Not Do Her Justice."

By stating this, the reporting client wants to express his sentiment that the Lady he visited is much more pretty then her pictures lead you to believe. This remark may seem a gratuitous compliment towards the Lady, or a bout of criticism towards the over-greedy agent who makes do with cheap pics, or even a sign of infatuation or after-glow enthusiasm for the Lady.

But it is often true: I have met many Ladies who are much nicer in real life then their pictures convey. I have written that phrase many times, and I always meant it.

So why can the pictures not correctly convey that lovely impression of "The Real Lady" (TRL)?
The reason for this goes further then simple penny-foolishness of the agent.

If you have ever tried to take proper pictures of friends and family, you will appreciate the difficulty of "catching" a person "just-right" in a picture. Many good amateur-shots are just a matter of someone who "got lucky". A coincidental "really nice" image is often caught at an unsuspecting moment. And often with some "imperfection" mixed in, such as an un-fitting background, a few dark corners or some part missing.

For pictures destined for an Escort-site, it is even more difficult to catch just-that-pose or exactly-her, especially if the face can not be visible (a different discussion, later). A good set of pictures takes hours of work, hundreds of shots. And ruthless selection.

And there is an additional complication: the unassuming charm of an almost-innocent Girl-Next-Door, is much more difficult to catch then it is to get some glam-pics from a trained, sophisticated, and plastically enhanced uber-babe who studied the latest magazine-trends and poses.

Hence, I have learned to be weary of too-posed and too-glamorous pictures. The routinely posing model-turned-escort and the overly-experienced
cool-beautiful babes we see on many escort sites are good. And I'm sure they float many boats.

But for me, the un-assuming, slightly awkward girl-next-door is often the better date. Paired with other items of research (profile, part-time-availability, Field-reports), I found that selecting Ladies with slightly-imperfect pictures can lead to dates where the personal connect, the communication, and the "action" are all of superior quality.

Most, if not all, of my repeat dates are with Ladies who do not have over-glamorous pictures.

This doesn't mean that amateur-shots are better then studio-work. Most (nearly all) of my Favorites have "professional" pictures taken in a studio, by an experienced photographer. And "professional pictures" also show that the Agent or the Lady, or both, are willing to "go the distance". But pictures of Genuine Persons often have a natural air of hesitation over them. Their pictures are not advert-quality or magazine-like studied-poses. You can see that the girl in the pictures is not quite used to "posing". And that makes them all the more Real People. Persons I can relate to.

The actual "action" on meeting such a not-too-perfect, but very Real Lady is often much more satisfying. These not-quite-professional Ladies often have much more to give, and are more ready to take enjoyment from the meeting themselves.

Whereas a lot of the ex- or wannabee-models are just plainly out for your wallet and will keep a trained eye on the clock, those Escorts whose pictures "don't quite do them justice", are the Real Persons. And once you have made a connection to that person, when she is put at ease, she will often be thrilled to meet you. She will enjoy the meeting, and thus offers a much better service.

Sexcapades of Kimberley

2007-11-30T05:45:00.000-08:00

Lame excuse: Little time to write, so just point to other interesting stuff...

Here is a recommeded Blog by Kimberley. She conveniently "hosts" this blog on an industry-related board. At least, Kimberley doesnt try to exploit the clicks on her blog by throwing pop-ups at the casual reader.

Allow me a playful dig at another Lovely Lady. Do keep writing dear, you are doing Great, but I hope you dont mind I block the popups.

On publications by Escorts in general...

I must admit that I have not read any of the currently in-vogue books by (supposedly) Escorts.

I have occasionally read Belle from 2004 onwards, but didnt really get hooked on reading that. Too much out of my league I suppose.

But the Belle-UK blog did help to re-create awareness of this particular Industry. Belle and other writers show the public out there that this industry is not just about parlours, pimps and exploited foreign girls (most of those girls are cunning gold-diggers, Survivors. I'd be the last to deny them a chance at happyness via the wallet of some rich bloke).

If you like your cinema-classics, the original Belle-movie was a good watch too. The featured picture is taken from it, in true Livvy-style.

Most of the other blogs and books who followed Belle-UK now seem like me-too attempts. Including my very own blog, as some will argue (mental note: re-clarify the purpose of this blog).But let me point out that this genre was already invented way back by Henriette Wilson (19th century!) and refined by another, more discreet and distinctly Happy Hooker some 30 years ago.
L'Histoire se répète.

As for reading and discussing the books, click over to Nia, who is an avid reader. She has a long list of links to books and some good discussions on them.

For me, a complicationg factor is: I dont want to carry a compromising book around. Hence I'm limited to internet-browsing so only the telco's and the guys (and gals) at Djee See Aitsh Kjuu can see what I read.

My readings of the SAS-series would qualify as naughty. If you like the covers, go read the contents. Steamier then most Field Reports. I have occasionally read and (deliberately) forgot one of those on a UK train to see what people would do. Never got a reaction. I suppose some pervert took it as soon as nobody was looking.

Business-wise, I have a reluctance for seeing escorts with too much of a writing ambtion: you never know what kind of publicity stunt they might pull later in their career. Or some "investigative" NotW journo might tap her phonelines. Or worse, the fake-sheik might book a fake-appoinment with hidden microphones and all. I would like my own Sexcapades to stay discreet for a long long time. Probably forever.

Kimberley doesn't seem to be one of those wannabee-glamour-babes trying to get into an ITV show. That show is mainly good for generating a lot of cleavage pictures in certain UK newspapers, I guess those D/E/F-listers do get their effort's worth of publicity - Personally, I would consider it an argument to flee the country, and, no, I will not link to it... Rant over.

As I've stated earlier, coutesanship is also a form of art and the Ladies are Artists. That may explain why Kimberley is another Escort with a desire to pen down (eh: post up) her experiences. She is a witty writer and I found her postings quite un-pretentious. A Very Good read.

So click over and have a Read of Kimberley.

Recommended to Ladies and Customers alike.

All I can do

2007-11-17T07:09:00.001-08:00

It is getting dark, cold and "the holidays" are coming up.
And lots of circumstances prevent me from posting much at the moment (stupid excuse, I know).

However, there is someone out there who can really do with a boost right now.

So Here (you know who you are):

I'm truly sorry, but this, with a big Cyberhug (((to You))) is all I can do for you at the moment.

Trains and Pulling. How often does it happen?

2007-11-10T07:18:00.000-08:00

Regulars (readers, that is) know I travel by train a lot. And it must be my devious mind, or my deodorant (LOL), but I seem to be meeting more and more desireable creatures on the rails all the time.

I have only-just resisted one temptress recently (now some weeks ago).

To my surprise, I got to chat with this Beauty on a near emtpy train to the airport on a Sunday-afternoon. She sat down opposite me, asked some question about the
timetable (train was 15 min delayed, and not going full-speed for unclear reasons), and then started chatting away nervously. I closed down my laptop, and replied the favour.

She was on her way to a blind (internet) date, and said she had not seen a man in over a year.

She was Lovely. Lots of character, Engergizing, really good mental connect. A slim, fit and very sexy size-10, Lovely hips in tight jeans, 34DD bust and a top with ample view. (If it was a Boobjob, it was very well done, and she was ProuDD of it, she did like the attention).
She was a natural flirt with her active, energized eyes, subtly head and hair movements, leg movements, sometimes rubbing hands close to her lap, slow but heavy breathing, opening her lips slightly when not speaking....

Whether natural or intended, her whole being was in pull-mode. She was Tempting, Seducing. Near the end of the journey, in which she kept talking to me, I asked her if she was acting as a "honey trap" for my wife and we had a great giggle (she denied the honeypot, btw, but didnt seem surprised, she seemed rather flattered ??).

nb: in the paranoid punter department, This is what can happen to you. Or this other incident which actually happened in Newcastle (why am I not surprised?).

Take Care All!

Halloween with Olivia

2007-10-31T13:15:00.000-07:00

Livvy!

Will you Behave!
Please.

And no, I dont want to be licked there either, not in public at least.

*ptr runs to hide inside the shirts-dept of Harvey Nichols (Leeds) while Livvy returns to the toys-dept to dress up*

Anyway...
*after adjusting clothes back to normal*

Livvy wanted me to prepare for Halloween as she could be one of the surprise-trick-treats knocking on the door (bell, actually) of my Leeds-pad.

Well, I thought I'd dress up the front-porch (eh, the hallway of the building) with a proper traditional Pumpkin:

And in true Livvy-style, the pumpkin is (c)lick-able.

Happy Halloween Everybody!

Stop Press

2007-10-21T12:21:00.000-07:00

Breaking News Indeed.

Olivia, our multi-lingual, multi-talented English Courtesan (from Yorkshire) got Interviewed. And Printed!

Go and have a look a the results Here in Good Magazine.

Also note the Context, the type of magazine...

The Actual Lady can be found via Her own blog where she gives "her version" of the interview.

I can see her dancing around the table, whoooooping and EEEE-ing right now.

Go and pay your respects, and join in the discussion at her Blog.

Virgin Working Girl

2007-10-16T11:53:00.001-07:00

Don't Count on it.

This topic is not what you think.

Virgin refers to the Train.

Train time is "meditation time". Any work done is a bonus, but should not ever be counted on. Over time, I have collected a nice set of anecdotes from train-journeys, some of which are documented on here, and some are told elsewhere [link to NEE or X-N].

This time, I was lucky - in a twisted way. My presentation and story for the oncoming day was done. I just tried to view it once more. 23 slides, should be OK for a short hour introduction.

I had half-n-half planned to write a report (yep, if you'r reading...) but this train was a bit too busy for that. Too much "viewers". So I decided to write this instead.

It was going to be one of those journeys.

First leg of the journey. 3 of the four seats on our table were taken and my seat was window. To my Right was one of these Heffalumps... She was Massive. So massive as I thought only Americans could be.

It was a miracle I could still fit in between her and the window. and every time she moved, I got gently squeezed further up against the window.

I had the benefit of watching the movie on her (equally fat) laptop (no sound though, as I didnt have the balls to ask her for an earplug). She has now just left the train. Two more hours to go, and we are delayed by about 20 min.

But Why put this rant on Ptr in WL ?

Oh Irnoy: She was watching the movie "Working Girl".

The Basics on a Date

2007-10-10T14:39:00.000-07:00

After listing the 5 factors, and the fluffy words to describe the most important (and hardest to define) "attitude factors", I will now bother you with my opinion on the remaining factors: PSE, Background and "Looks",

3 - Bedroom mechanics, techniques, initiative.

Some will (correctly) call this the PSE aspect of the date.

Timing: Generally established during first meeting.

Description:
To put it bluntly: Ladies with a high "score" on this item are generally Excellent Shags. They know how to heat up the atmosphere and how to keep the meeting going. It is here that the practical experience, technique and fitness of the girl come into play.

Note: I've had a few ladies (all "experienced professionals") who scored Top-Marks in this dept, but because items 1 and 2 were only average, they didn't make it into the return-visit-list (not yet anyway). Personally, I am not looking solely for what some dub as the "PSE", the Porn Star Experience. However, the bedroom action is an important part of the date, to me as well as to others. And I imagine there is a huge punter-community out there that is looking for exactly this and only this.

4 - Background: Job, Education and Manners.

Timing: Generally established on first meeting, but the impression can develop over time. Depends on how much time we can devote to "Chat". Some of the Really Good ones do not devote too much time to talk on the first meeting, eager to get down to business. But Manners and general behavior generally show.

Description:
This aspect is less Important than I first thought it would be, but there are a few remarks I want to make. And please note that I don't want to be disrespectful, just stating my impressions.

Behavior, Respect and manners are more important then GPA, degree or accent.

My top-dates all have a regular job (or believably claim to). They are a mixture of (supposedly) Uni-graduates and slightly less educated Ladies but they all have a regular job. The distinguishing factor is not Education or Grades, but rather having experience in a regular (non-escorting) occupation seems to be an important factor.

Full-time professional escorts, especially those who climbed up via the greasy parlour-scene and those who "'aave seen it all luv - that's 13 years I'm shaggin fellas for a livin" can be a bit over-confident. That routine reflects on the manners and gives a "conveyor belt" image. (But I've seen some good exceptions too).

The actual "level" of any job she holds is less important than the fact that the Lady is holding on to one. She keeps a grounding in real life.

Admittedly, a Truly Hot meeting with someone of whom you suspect that she really is (or could be) in charge of a large department can be a bit of a turn-on. Convincing signs of international experience are also exciting. In one case, The Lady and myself had worked in the same US city for a period. Nice memories.

If anything, Ladies with a background in a "caring profession" (nurses!) tend to be really good Dates. "Office ladettes" can be surprisingly horny, but some are also professional cheery-mannerism-actors. Ladies with either a Sales/Marketing or a (fashion?) Retail background generally score high as well, but those are most prone to "professional acting".
Since salespersons tend to employ Every Trick in the Book (and sometimes every ounce in the Bra) they generally provide Very Good, enjoyable Acting.

I also cannot resist to chop in this link to Nia about Marketing and Prostitution.

Admittedly, my day-job does give me a certain negative view of suppliers, vendors and salespeople. If you think agency-sites contain distorted truths and tweaked pictures, wait until you have to deal with real-world suppliers who market themselves as "partners".

The one "profession" I hesitate about is "full time student". The younger, well educated and well-mannered students tend to be a bit awkward on the job. Possibly because the age-difference with me, a 42 year old geezer, is too
large to bridge, possibly because they lack the raw-life experience that office-ladettes and other girls have gone through.

5 - looks and physique.

Timing: Established from pictures (unreliable!) and during first meeting.

Description:
This is the least important factor.

However, basic, essential personal care and hygiene are high on the list.
Too-messy, unkempt hairdos are a turnoff, at least to me.
Badly applied or over-done makeup is a nono (lipstick!).
Big Hair and earrings are not practical. And earrings get lost (...)

If I smell Body Odor it can take a real effort of will to approach the Lady, but funny enough, some of the less penetrating odors are a turn-on.... Biology?

Too much PERFUME is a BIG NO. It leaves a smell afterwards, and most of these fragrances have a horrible taste (so Please Don't apply on Cleavage or other areas where a guy is likely to put his tongue).

As for shapes and sizes, I'm fairly liberal. I like a certain comfortable curvyness, but I've successfully seen Ladies varied from 4'6" to about 6'2", and dress-sizes ranging from a small 8 to a listed 16 (possibly even a bit bigger LOL - but Great Attitude). A certain physical fitness is appreciated, and can actually help the Lady (and me) to enjoy the date better.

Well, There you have it. My "Factors that Make a Date".

Sometimes you meet someone who has Top-Marks in each category, and with some of my regulars, I think I have come close to "The Ultimate Experience" (hm, later...).

Lovemaking (apologies for the word) with someone who Matches well can becomes something of a Spiritual, Religious Experience. And the resulting Afterglow is first unbelievable, and then, when it ebbs away, creates this Craving, this renewed Desire... (where is my Calendar, where is my mobile)

Next I want to examine why "Regulars" are Brilliant (I am trending toward seeing fewer Ladies, more repeat bookings) but why there is also the need for "Fresh Dates" from time to time. (this is where the male in me shows his bad, unfaithful character...)

Attitude is Everything.

2007-10-07T04:34:00.000-07:00

Right. So last week I listed my 5-factors:

1. Mental connect. Spark.
2. Mutual enjoyment (Quality acting or Real Enjoyment)
3. Bedroom Mechanics, the PSE
4. Personality, Education, General background
5. Looks and physique.

The Key factors are 1 and 2. Together they determine "attitude".

My background kicks in.

I must refrain from turning this into an engineering or semi-mathematical modelling lecture. A meeting is after all just "A moment in time shared by two Humans, each with different backgrounds and mental states at that particular point".
And we understand far too little of bio-chemicals and psychology to be able to analyze as if it were lockpicking (hm...).

Enough digression, here are some of my thoughts and reasoning behind the first two.

1 - Mental, Personal Connect.

This is ALL IMPORTANT.
This is also the hardest to define.

Timing: Immediate.
With all Top-Quality dates, I knew I had a Winner in the first 60 seconds or less.

Description: Difficult.
Too difficult to describe. But this is not about immediate full-on snogging, not about acting (or even being) a desperately-hot-slut-in-need-of-C*. Those are nice, but no guarantee for top-notch dates. Nor is it about wittyness or knowing Shakespeare, citing Mark Twain or Monty Python. And not about display of profound knowledge about French cheese or Italian wine. It is much more subtle.

Probably both mental and biochemical factors come into play.

Suffice to say that this crazy thing called "Love" and its impact has inspired, engergized, and often destroyed many Artists and countless normal human beings.
I cannot begin to understand it. Should stop trying. NOW.

2 - Mutual enjoyment - quality of acting or even real enjoyment.

Timing: Within 10-20 minutes.
Although this tends to show up more clearly over time, it can mostly be established on the first date, but sometimes it only becomes clear on subsequent meetings.

Description:
Some Ladies seem to genuinly enjoy meeting a customer. Those tend to unfreeze and open up in the first 20 minutes, allthough Some need more time to grow confident and to relax. From that point on, the meeting can just flow naturally.

Generally, this item goes well with the more life-experienced, confident Ladies. Those who know what to expect, know what to do, and know how to benefit from the encounter themselves. Part-time Ladies, who escort just for kicks, for fun, are the best in this department.
This is why Yummi-mummies and MILF type Ladies are my favorites. They tend to come in cautious but they are curious and rapidly at ease, confident that they can handle you. Some are beaming with anticipation and all enjoy the power of pleasure that they yield. They might feel flattered by the attention they get, and they definitely intend to Enjoy themselves while providing a "service".

Factors 1 and 2 together determine the "attitude" both participants will display during the meeting. These factors are by far the most important when meeting a date.

It also leads to the conclusion that the success of a meeting is largely determined in the first 20 minutes (I just realized that now, and it make me think... 30 min bookings were never my thing but... It wouldnt work: too much pressure. And it wouldnt be fair on the Lady).

I think this "attitude" thing is very hard to fake, but I can of course never be sure (consider link to mind-game, or seduction). When she is "genuine", or a Very Good actress, there will be no trace of acting, no forcedness, no betraying gestures or remarks.

If she is a good actress, there may be small signs, so insignificant that I can completely ignore the signs and still Truly Enjoy.

With the average or below-average actresses, I am now (bragging to be) experienced enough to make the most of just about any female company, as long as she comes to see me with good, friendly and positive intentions.

On a few occasions (I recall three), I spotted the Nervousness of the girl, but also noticed her potential. In those very rare cases I've been known, early on in the date, to spontaneously extend the time with 30 or 60 minutes to show her my appreciation and my confidence in her (slightly unfair om my part because depending on my budget for that month!). In all three cases, this has worked wonders, and two of those are still Solid Regulars.
Scam-artists be ware: I only do this if item-1 (mental) is a 100% match.

Of course, I would be lying if I said that the other items such as "Bedroom Mechanics", "Background" and "Looks" were totally irrelevant. However, for me, they first two Really Count. And over-emphasis on the factors 3, 4 or 5 easily leads to a turn-off for one of the participants.

To Be continued... (only if somebody is actually interested).

Trains and Flirts

2007-10-05T07:34:00.001-07:00

Trains. Just my Luck.

There were some memorable train journeys on both GNER [link dead?], Virgin and on several Eurostar and TGV lines (not published yet). And last week, doing way too much train-time, I was lucky again (no, not what you perverts think).

This train was slightly delayed due to weather, and the carriage was rather full. But I still had a 4 person table for myself (I can look really Nasty, Foreign and garlic-Smelly). [image of SDF?]

Then, at a particular small university town, at approx 17:00, a large crowd was waiting. Funny enough, half or more of the crowd were Real Beauties. Hence my hope for some eye-candy, maybe a chance to put my accent to some good conversational use, pick up a bit of youth-slang ....

But no ... all the beauty passed me by, none even deigning to look. Until, that is, a rolling 20+, size-16-38c with unkept hair and bad-fitting garments slowed her effortful paces even more, looked at me in utter contempt, breathed heavily once more, and used her equally large handbag to take possession of the seats opposite me.

And while the big but not-very-bb young woman huffed and squeezed herself into the seat opposite me, I saw the mocking, sparkling blue eyes of the Perfect GND[link to abbrev] diagonally opposite me where She gracefully sat herself down. Two unsurmountable seats too early.

The image of perfection fixed my gaze for a brief moment before I looked away and tried to say something polite to the girl (trying not to talk to her handbag) who had just taken possession of the both seats opposite me.

Luckily, the owner of the handbag was able to hold a reasonable conversation, and we got to chat a little before she occupied herself with her mobile. She was able to play/text/tweak her phone for the full two hours of the trip.

Now for the good part:
Throughout the journey, the lovely blue-eyed blonde made eye-contact many times. She never read the book she elegantly held in her lap, she did not thumb her her phone,
nor did she play with her long, naturally (or very well done) curly hair. She never inspected her nails and if she had used any makeup, it was done very skillful and discrete.
She just sat there, staring dreamily ahead. She just moved her head slightly every now and then. Looking up, looking sideways, looking ... At ME ????
I desperately tried to do something sensible on my laptop (ended up making these notes), but every time I looked Her way, she immediately sensed it and looked back. No expression, just looking.

We kept locked-eyes longer on each occasion. I tried very hard not to smile, and she had admirable control over her own facial expression. Apart from her eyes, she hardly moved, but I'm sure she was making silent fun of me. She could out-stare me at each occasion. At one point, I counted to 49 (seconds?) before she blinked, and I looked away. The people around us must have sensed the tension, but everybody
kept perfect innocent postures. Were they blind ? embarrassed ? or just british-reserved-polite ?

This Blonde was not "blonde" at all, and she really was a Natural Beauty. Very very lovely. With a Sweet innocent face, beautiful chin, tender, vulnerable neckline, but no visible cleavage. Approximately a size-8-32b, with perfect posture and attitude.
Her gestures were minimal, distinguished and controlled (rubbing a lotion on her hands?) and she had a neutral (or just slightly mocking) expression on her face.
With stares that soft and long, She probably knew her own powers all too well.
She must have had a great time teasing that raunchy foreigner with the laptop.

Punline: No Pun Really. She had to get out one stop before me.

Whoever you were: Thanks You! You made my Day.

How to find QUALITY dates

2007-10-03T14:35:00.000-07:00

After the patronizing post on "The Right Lady - for the job" (almost a month ago, but it sparked some Lovely reactions, notably from Alexa who described The Ultimate Man.), it is now time for a different interpretation of TRL: how to find "The Right Lady - for a date."

There are several boards, public and closed, where clients (punters) publish their top-lists of Ladies. I have given in to the temptation to list (and brag) twice, and the list of reviews to the right of my blog is my third-time-sin moment, although it is not quite in order-of-preference.

These days, I rarely have "bad" dates, but I keep my top-list confidential. The re-invites (and their agents, sigh) know who they are. And I have a long list of must-see-again Ladies waiting. Not enough Budget and not enough Time!

But to stay on the topic of "The Right Lady", and rather then to name/shame/embarrass various Lovely Ladies I will list the Criteria that I found to be important.

This is not an "Invitation to Tender". A well known NE lady will now accuse me of publishing my "specifications". I will take that with the usual grain of salt. I adore the girl for her honesty and I respect her for her experience. She must be a very special experience but we have this agreement to never-ever meet one another (if you change your mind, drop me a message ;-...)

Here are the factors that, IMHO, determine the Quality of a date.

In order of importance, they are:
1. Mental connect. Spark.
2. Mutual enjoyment (Quality acting or real enjoyment)
3. Bedroom Mechanics, the PSE
4. Personality, Education, General background
5. Looks and physique.

Out of these factors, the first two are the most important. The 5th item, "looks", is only marginally important. To put it bluntly: I've seen several Ladies who would qualify as only marginally beautiful, but who were Top Quality Dates because they scored highly on 1, 2 and 3.

Items 2 and 3 reflect the fact that it is "only" a business transaction. I am after all first and foremost looking for a no-strings-attached moment of Fun.

I hesitated to put 4 (background, personality) before 5 (model-looks?), but decided that a "personality" is probably more of a turn-on then looks-alone. A Lady with a lot of personality is always automatically beautiful, whether she is an agile size 8 or a comfortable size 16.
Item 4 is also the most risky. I got dangerously close to some of the regulars, and despite the risk, I would not mind to stay in touch with them. They are quite interesting Personalities to talk/chat to.

Of course, I could not resist to elaborate, but after re-reading my "10-thousand words" on the topic, I decided to follow the advice of this NE Lady, and to cut back a bit.
Maybe Later.

Comments anyone ? Agreement ? Disagreement ?

The Right Lady

2007-09-12T15:39:00.000-07:00

Well, Are You ?

Between myself and a few other Bloggers (Olivia, Chevalier, Nia) we seemed to have coined a new TLA (Three Letter Acronym): TRL - The Right Lady.

Originally, I thought I'd use the term "The Righ Lady" to describe my ideal Companion, my preferred type of P4P Provider, my DreamDate.
My selfish intention was to describe The Right Lady - for me. I wanted to advertise my own preferences, and hope some future date would play along and provide exactly that illusion.
NB: I'm no saint, I will publish my specification for TRL - but later.
However, Before embarking on my trip of self-indulgence, I want to give some thought to the Ladies...

The Right Lady - for the job

This was sparked mainly by snippets and posts from Nia (here) who got an inquiry from a hestitating would-be Escort, Chevalier (here) who seems to share my preferences, Joanne (here) who pointedly listed what a proper Working Girl should be capable of, and Livvy (here).
The topic was furter helped by discussions with Sue (diary here), and two other Very Special Ladies, whom I suspect have indeed all the hands-on experience they claim to have (including some proper experience in normal, civilian, life as well). The final push to write this all down then came from this blog by CollegeCallGirl.

Whether the account of CCG is true or fiction, it is good reading and contains some interesting clues. Please Go read it.

So to open the discussion, my statement would be:

Yes, Escorting is the new Temp job

But not for everybody!

Many girls and women seem to want to "give it a try" or "go on the game". Some agencies advertize for students: "Leave Uni Debt Free".

I will immediately state that I am quite reluctant myself to see Student-Escorts. Some of them that I met were too "cold" and too "tense". Possibly from lack of experience, possibly impressed by someone 20 years older. So my first instinct is to disadvise this job for Students. My very best Escort Dates were mostly with slightly more experienced (mature) women who were fully confident and grounded in life and in a regular job. But that is based on my own experience.

I do not feel qualified to tell anyone if it is a good idea Yes or No.

I can only point out some things I see, and hope everyone will then make their own choice and then gain happiness through that.

Please note that I dont want to be seen to glamourize the job in any way. I know many women come to it in despair, some thrive, and some suffer (hey, almost like office life).
It is the suffering I want to prevent.

Also, I do not want to even comment on "the street scene" or on the sleezier side of the parlour-trade or even on the fact that some agencies are "controlled" or simply are bullies. Too much nastiness there, and I would just tell everyone to avoid it if they come across it. Try not to waste your talent and try not to spend your good money on bad providers. Don't encourage bad-business.

Now for those who still consider a career as an Escort, I would suggest to go and do research.

In earlier posts I've mentioned www.saafe.info and www.iusw.com. Go read those, follow their links, and digest the information. You can use the logos on the right to find them.

I recommend you read This post by CollegeCallGirl, and ask yourself:
Would you run the same risks ?
Would you do it differently ?
Can you do it differently ?

I also want to share the thoughts of two relatively mature working Ladies whom I have seen multiple times. The are approximately my age and both have teenage kids. In response to my question: "Would you condone your kids to do it?", they both hestitated and their final replies tended to be "No", or at least not out of necessity and preferably not at a Uni-age.
Main reasons were the risk to health, both physically ("Not all customers are nice") but especially mentally. As one said: "This job can really do your head in."

This activity is not for the faint-hearted, but you already knew that. If you think you are one of those suitable Personalities and you are determined to give it a go, I would advise you to seek a few more things:

Find a confidante who can act as a coach and a shoulder. Preferably a Lady who has been there and done that. Someone you can run to after a bad date. Someone who will not judge you, or lecture you.

Note: one now-experienced Lady started in the job by calling a few local "indies" just to sound them out, talk to them. She was very grateful for their advice (Ladies who get flooded with calls: please dont blame me).
If, when making those calls, you get bitched at for wasting the womans time, or for adding more competition in a full field: Welcome to the world of Escorting. Don't worry and don't give up. There are other, more confident Ladies out there who are willing and able to help you.

Note: Good agents will provide someone like this. Often the owner-operator is an ex WL, sometimes they have a few experienced ladies whom you can call on. There are disadvantages of having your confidante too closely linked to (dependent on?) your agent, but it is a good start.

Get acquainted with the legal side and the Tax implications. Both IUSW and SAAFE provide useful links, and it is actually more simple then you think. To stay within the (UK) law (and taxes...) you must become self-employed for this part of your earnings. It may well be your first "venture", and can be an interesting (business-) learning experience as well. It may seem like a bit of a hassle, but you are much safer when you operate above-board. If only because you cannot get "busted" by the taxman. One less thing to worry about.
Note: some agents will request you explicitly to go "above board". They will request you sign a statement whereby you acknowledge your self-employed status. If an agent has his own paperwork in order, that might just be a sign they are Serious.

Right. Time to stop my paternalizing.
If you still consider this line of work, re-read from the start, follow the links, and think one more time.

If you decide to take the step: Good Luck!
And we might meet on a date sometime.

Addition on 17 Oct 2007:

The "Belle-de-Jour and Billy Piper" show did generate quite some interest in this very topic.

Could you go Escorting?

Some interesting discussions popped up Here on Punternet and here on the Sheffield Scene.

If you think you are "The Right Lady" and considering a career in this business: Go check them.

Footnote: My main motivation for writing this post (actually: for the entire blog) is rather selfish: I prefer to meet Ladies who are happy with their choices, comfortable in their job, and who are capable of providing a few hours of Truly Nice company, including possibly something very beautiful that may happen,
and which only can happen between truly Consenting, Confident and Comfortable adults.

Food for the Bedroom

2007-09-07T07:03:00.000-07:00

Some good drinks and light nibbles can really start a date off Properly.

"the load"
I'll honestly admit it:
This item has been lurking in the corridor for a while. It was originally prompted on a board somewhere (lost the link), and I'm posting it now because I'm too busy to research and hone my other topics such as:

"Regulars" and "TRL" (Chevalier has some nice angles on those),

"The Ideal Date" (done by Joanne, who refers to MG - no I don't write scripts).

Or that pervy Singapore-thingy that Livvy mentioned.

Given my real-world workload, expect a low-ish frequency in the next 6 weeks or so.

My favorite hotels all offer a cheese platter, and I generally order that (with Extra Crackers) when I invite a Lady. Also, I ask the Lady what drinks she prefers.
Some hotels are good enough to deliver a bottle of whine without opening it for you. This allows you to demonstrate that the drink is untampered.

If the Lady appreciates it: I also get Olives (green for me), as those are great to play with on skin, or to practice snowballing. Although snowballing is not at all my thing (and never will be), swapping tasty olives can be nice. And it brings your faces, lips, together. Exciting!

Recently, while shopping for a "present", I found a nice item in this chocolate-boutique: chocolate-aspargus (have not yet found good link or image). With The Right Lady, that can be very Kinky food.

And sometimes we play with the wine (red for me, but white if the Lady prefers), possibly drink it from each others mouth.
Why ? just Because it brings your faces and lips together, it feels kinky. And it is more appropriate (and erotic!) then the original snowballing. The other snowballing would just spoil all my appetites.

If the hotel or appartment has an ice-machine: crushed-ice with the OWO can be Great. The cold water runs (and tickles) everywhere, so make sure you have towels nearby. And altough I know of the tricks with bubbly, champagne was never quite my thing. I think it is overrated and I much more enjoy the real taste of a good wine.

Anyway, I'm sure you Ladies clients can come up with plenty more foody-ideas. Lets hear them.

Agencies and Indies revisited.

2007-08-25T09:38:00.000-07:00

Today's first image is borrowed from a recommended UK newspaper and serves as intro to the topic.

Many thanks to Livvy for a Brilliant post on the topic of Indie versus Agency.

May I invite you all to pop over to Her for a good read and possibly offer your contributions to the discussion ?

Of course, with me being lazy, I've given my opinion on this topic earlier on Here (blog) with an elaborate list of pros/cons from my perspective posted on NEE.

Where I tended to look at the question from a business/market perspective, Livvy did a good job of elaborating on the question of "custumer choice", and suitability. E.g. when would a customer choose an Indie or an Agency. I agree with most of her arguments but am pondering a few semi-critical comments.

On here, I would add just a few personal items and the inevitable pedantic advice.

I would say (admit) that recently I have booked both Indies and Agency-Ladies at 50-50, and that is purely by coincidence.
My main criteria is to find "The Right Lady", the right personality, for me. And I found several TRLs both in the Indie group and with agencies. I feel a post coming on "TRL".

With my current preference developing towards "part timers", Ladies who remain solidly rooted in "civilian life", I may actually lean towards a preference for Agency-Ladies in the future. I find the full-time, professional, for-a-living Escorts are Good, but the part-time for-fun Ladies are generally a even better. At least for the type of dates I prefer to book. My current regulars are all Part-Time Escorts (hm, more material for a post..).

Now if I may add some pedantic advice for Ladies who want to embark into this Industry. Escorting is the new Temp-Job after all.

Disclaimer: I am by no means a legal expert, so don't take this just from me. Go Verify!

Note: In the UK, Escorting can be done "above board" (e.g. your income is taxable) and when done correctly, it is a perfectly legal way of earning money. It is just a form of self-employment. There are certain restrictions around advertising and offering of services (Please Do Research!), but basically you are just another business. [add good link to legal stuff]

- Start with research on the Internet, notably at www.saafe.info (see my banners-page).

- Before going furhter, check the blogs of Compartments and CollegeCallgirl, notably this post, to get an idea of what Can happen to you. Don't tell me I didn't warn you! (I am notably interested in opinions from Ladies on this one - is CC correct? Is Thais correct? Do you recognize anything? And what can I, the customer do to prevent the "rat" to creep in?).

- Always start as an Agency-Lady.

- Interview with a few agents, find one that feels comfortable, one that is able and willing to "coach" you a bit. Possibly talk to some other Ladies, and start as an Agy Lady.

- You are a free person. And in any business, including this one, it is
simply illegal for an agent to claim exclusivity or to try and bully you.

- Be up front with your agent about your goals (temporarily? Money-fix?
Adventure-Seeking? Long-term Career? Considering to go indie later on?).
A good Agent will (should) listen and offer some guidance. A good agent will understand and accept your goals, even if it means going indie or considering your own agency later on (this happens a lot, it is part of the nature of the business).

- It is similar to any job application or hiring/fireing of staff: Any Doubt = Out.

- Try not to deal with dodgy, over-demanding or othewise shady agents.
You have free choice. You are not bound to your agent, and your agent cannot bind you.

Good Luck - We might meet on a Date...

Oh, and for today's last image: When I put "Agency" into google-images, This Surprise came up...

Broke my Heart

2007-08-21T10:34:00.000-07:00

She was Lovely.

It was our third meeting and she was one of my almost-regulars.

She broke my heart. Unintentionally, I'm sure.

On the third meeting, she came in with her laptop-bag and a bit of a worried frown on her face. She asked me for help with her laptop (everybody seems to assume I know these things, because I use a laptop for email and writing).
And my reply was along the lines: I dont really know that stuff, but it is rather complex. I suggest you outsource that to someone who knows what he is doing and who can afford to spend some time on it. Can you not ask some boyfriend to do that for you?

Background: I'm still scarred by many experiences where I got myself foolishly in trouble for helping out nice (looking) Girls with math / physics-lab / car / wordprocessing / spreadsheets / powerpoints.
I remember each and every name, the beautiful eyes, the lovely smiles...

The girls, of course, never let me near them, and always dropped me the moment their problem was fixed. And I kept making that mistake until I was well over 25yo. I still make it...

Anyway, there was me suggesting she should get it fixed by some innocent sucker, preferably a fellow student who could afford the time to get lost in the crypts of her harddisk.

Her timid reply was:
I cannot really have a boyfriend anymore you know.

Me, carefully threading:
well, you are a very nice, clever, likeable person, and you know how to deal with men.

Her:
Boyfriends want to have sex all the time. And when I'm not studying or escorting, I just want to chill.

Brief Awkward silence followed, which she broke by quickly turning on her bubbly alter-ego. I'd have sworn she gave me that genuine, hot kiss to get us both back into play. Somewhat to my surprise, she could rapidly switch back to her usual relaxed but Intense Personality that I so admired. And she took me with her: We had the same Mind-BlOwing Sex as ever. I still am 99% sure she enjoyed it. Her body certainly seemed to respond well. She left as usual, partly exhausted, partly bouncy-cheery, (pretending ??) she too had drawn engergy from the encounter. I can only hope she really enjoyed it ...

But I never forgot those remarks. I still feel heartbroken. I doubled her Tip (and gave her all the choccies), and I sincerely hope she got sorted quickly - it seemed she really needed that laptop to work properly.

It is almost a year ago now.
I did not have the courage to see her again. And she is now off the scene as far as I know.
I hope she is Okay.

Is this another example of the loneliness of a Working Lady ?
Did I make a mistake by asking about the BF ?

Or was I just nearly or wholely duped again ?

Ptr Leeds in Wonder Land

Under the Radar.

Nessuno mi può giudicare - Escort in Love

Off to the Land of Nod

Addictive for the Girl.

Nice to be Back.

Hedge perversion

Back for Olives

next best remedy for jetlag

Remedy for jetlag

Ladies, Cougars, and their Prey

Prostitution Research and Bindel Propaganda

slow deep intense

Advice on Men and Sex

Dr Belle de Jour

une amante authentique

Prostitution, History, Economy

Trains and Trainstations and People

Punternet Responses to Harriet Harman

Debate on Escorting

Women that are never wrong

Sandra Bullock

Birds on Boards - We've never been Hotter

Sue and Angels4you in the news again

underwear evolution

Hello to Amanda from Scotland - and a (((HUG))) to someone Dear.

The richest woman in Yorkshire

Mae West memorable Quotes

Read the Escorting Manual

Varieties on the Girl Friend Experience

the voice of an Escort

the potent power of personality

smoking leads to good sex

Smoking: Escort Sabotage or Erotic Stimulation

Women that need a Defibrillator

informational message

run to you - back soon

Veggie Escorts for Better Sex

Whores are Heroes

Hot Activity in Recession

Frollicks

techie

large Tree and flowering cherries.

Fun and Links

Need some Tender Love and Care

Relax

Regulars - An affair without the downsides.

Recommended reading : Listen to Sex Workers.

Escorts and Regulars: blessing or curse ?

flattering picture

The Romantic Kiss

Music

tags and blog games

so many topics, so little time.

Intimacy

Introductions

Have we been introduced ?

Hot and Sweet

To Be Continued.

How to write a Homage

Floozies in Film

Politics, Picures and Freedom of Frollicks

Romantic, hopelessly Romantic.

Six Words and a five tags.

Sitemap of my escorting blog

Escorting - Freedom of Companionship

Two Very Nice Links

Racks Revisited

Join the Union

Coolest Escort this side of the Rockies

KUTDWWIH and HYCHPEAWKI

Changing position - a special escort movie

Racks and more

More positions, $pread the news...

Positions.

A Great Boost.

Christmas Spirit and politics

Just Smarter

Her Pictures do Not do her Justice

Sexcapades of Kimberley